My name is Rovid Asses, and this is Yudel Yech. This is Yech. We had a great conversation on this week in our Mastermind Goals with Linux Local Members. We talk about the difference between leading and judging.
Because sometimes, we mistake both of them. We think that we're leading, but the reality is that we're criticizing. We put the people down and we think that's the way that we lead. Just to tell them what they're doing wrong.
But instead of leading, we're judging them. They're not becoming better because of your words. You actually put guilt, shame, and the feeling of not being enough. So I'm guilty of that too.
I need to make sure that I catch myself. Where am I judging versus leading? The framer that I use, I'm constantly looking for three things. Number one is praising, recognizing, and of course correcting.
In order for me to lead, I have to praise somebody for what they're doing. And if you can't find something that they could praise them about, it's because you probably are not praising yourself. Because you can't give something to somebody that you don't have. And the reason that we judge, because we are constantly judging ourselves, because we can't find in others, but we don't see ourselves.
That's the reason that you have to make sure that you find something good that you'll praise about yourself, so you can actually see that in other people. So praise people for the things that they're doing. The second is, recognize. Recognize their work.
Recognize their effort. Recognize also where they need to improve. But that's different from criticizing. Precising is always putting them down, always telling them that they're not doing the right thing.
Recognizing is saying, I can see where you can improve. Appreciate the fact that you're doing the work, but here's how you can get better at it. The same thing for you. Where are you not recognizing your effort?
Where are you giving yourself the credit for putting the work? And then of course correct. Where do you need to adapt and adjust? What are the strategies that you need to do in order for you to get better?
See most of us, the reason that we're constantly judging, instead of leading, is because we don't see what we want to see in other people in ourselves. We're projecting, instead of leading. We're reacting, instead of leading. My intention for today is to ask yourself, where am I appreciating myself?
Where do I need to praise myself for my effort? Where do I need to recognize myself and where do I need to course correct? Because a leader cannot give something to somebody that they don't have themselves. And every single day, you have to make sure that you are looking in the mirror and ask yourself, how can I course correct?
How can I find something I could praise that I could be proud about? I recognize how far you've come. Give yourself the credit of showing up. And none of us, we want to be, but we're exactly what we need to be.
And if we want to lead, instead of criticize, instead of judge, we must look at ourselves and realize that leadership begins with leading yourself first. You have to lead yourself first. That's what every single morning in ritual, I tap into joy, I tap into gratitude, I tap into love and I tap into thoughts that I could be proud about it. As I go from a bunch of shit that I feel guilt and shame, I go from a bunch of shit that I'm not proud about, but then I choose to focus on the things that I could be proud about.
I could choose to focus on the things that I bring me joy, love and gratitude. From that state, I could see in others what I see myself. Your inside world is a reflection of your outside world. If you find yourself judging today or criticizing, just look at the inside.
And ask yourself, why am I my biggest critic? Why do I continue to beat myself down because that's what you're doing to other people? Lead, not judge, empower yourself first, bring your power to others, because the best is yet to come. Have an amazing day, learn it, live it, experience it.
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