Dangerous Women w/ Alyssa Mei Liu

Alyssa Mei Lue is a traveling burlesque and circus performer, Playboy model, and podcaster from Riverside, California, where her formal sex education consisted of one vague classroom video, a heavily religious upbringing, and getting married at 21 before she had ever seen, touched, or had sex with a penis. In this episode, we talk about performance, survival, and what it actually means to be a dangerous woman. Alyssa shares how she got into modeling during quarantine, why modeling can be just as risky as live performance, and how learning boundaries in those industries changed the way she moves through the world. We also get into catcalling, self-defense, jiu-jitsu, gun safety, growing up in Riverside, and the reality of having almost no real sex education before marriage. Want more of Alyssa and I? Catch our bonus Reddit story episode over on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck _________________________________________________ Where to find Alyssa: Instagram: @alyssameiliu Podcast: Bend Her Backwards Where to find Arielle: Instagram: @birdsandbeesdontfck TikTok: @birdsandbeesdontfck Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/birdsandbeesdontfck Bonus stories found exclusively on Patreon STORY 1: Yesterday my brother told me he was in love with me. STORY 2: My wife (33f) is denying we're married and wants to be called my 'girlfriend'… I'm confused STORY 3: WIBTAH for breaking up with my gf for humiliating me? Like jewelry that'll make you cum? Me too! Get $15 Off Crave Pleasure Jewelry Here:  https://lovecrave.com/arielle Episode Cheat Sheet: 00:20 Meet Alyssa Mei Lue (burlesque performer & model) 02:27 Getting back into performing and winning The Play's Got Talent 04:32 Live performance challenges and adapting on stage 08:46 Why burlesque is more exhausting than aerial performance 10:51 Presence, performance, and why it matters in sex 13:10 Modeling risks, boundaries, and safety 17:44 How Alyssa started modeling during quarantine 19:59 The psychology of angles, posing, and "perfect" photos 24:18 Catcalling, safety, and walking alone as a woman 33:39 Why women stay guarded and how quickly things can escalate 35:54 Self-defense, jiu-jitsu, and learning how to fight back 46:56 Growing up in Riverside and building resilience 50:03 Getting married before having sex (and what happened) 55:52 Why sex education fails so many people 57:06 Pleasure, autonomy, and rebellion 59:06 Patreon preview: Reddit relationship stories