Dare to Be Arrogant: Backing Yourself 10% More

This week’s dare is inspired by my incredible previous guest, Abbi Pulling from the F1 Academy. In our conversation, Abbi said something that stopped me in my tracks:“My goal this year is to be more arrogant.”In this mini episode, we unpack what that really means – and no, it’s not about being rude, entitled, or steamrolling people. It’s about backing yourself out loud.In this episode, I talk about:Reframing “arrogance”Why we need to redefine arrogance as unapologetically backing your skills, ideas, and decisions – especially for women who are often overqualified and under-assertive.Self-efficacy and the psychology of confidenceHow your belief that you can handle a task (self-efficacy) affects whether you speak up, try, and bounce back – and how behavior can actually create confidence.The 10% rule: your dare for the next 7 daysOne simple challenge: choose a situation where you’d usually shrink, and act 10% more “arrogant” instead. Not 200% – just 10%.Examples might be:Speaking up in a meeting instead of staying quietCorrecting mis-credit and saying, “Actually, I led that project”Naming your real rates or boundaries without apologisingStretching your comfort zone (without tipping into panic)Why feeling uncomfortable doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong – it usually just means you’re stepping outside your old script and letting your nervous system recalibrate.Reflection prompts to journal on:Where in my life am I most underestimating myself?What am I quietly excellent at that nobody sees because I keep hiding it?If I was 10% more arrogant this week, what would I do differently?This week’s dareFor the next 7 days:👉 Pick one real situation where you’d usually shrink.👉 Act 10% more arrogant – in the best possible way.👉 Back yourself a little louder than you usually would.You don’t have to grow a giant ego. You just have to stop pretending you are less than you are.Come and tell me what you didI would love to hear how you get on with this dare.DM me on Instagram and tell me what you triedOr tag me in your Stories and share your 10% more arrogant momentDare Club is coming…We are just weeks away from the launch of Dare Club on 28th April – my new online paid community for women who want to live a more daring life.Inside Dare Club you’ll get:Live webinars with previous and new guestsA sisterhood community if you haven’t found your tribe yetOngoing mini dares, tools, and conversations to help you be more daringWe’re starting with 50 founding members who will get a locked-in lifetime price.👉 Head to shewhodareswins.com and click on Dare Club to join the waiting list👉 Or comment “dare club” on any of my Instagram posts and I’ll DM you the link Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.