Dating Burnout – How Unhealed Pain & Patterns Show Up On Dates

Cam and Elle explore how energy doesn’t lie… no matter how hard we try to play it cool, we bring the pain we haven’t addressed on our dates. We say that with no judgment and a well of compassion, because Elle was afraid of men and kept settling for years before she decided to look under the emotional hood and heal her relationship anxiety. Trigger warning: Elle vulnerably discusses the roots of her anxiety with men – growing up Catholic and an experience of sexual assault on an airplane – live in this episode, so please skip those chapters (listed below) if you’d rather avoid these topics. Sending much love your way if you can relate to her stories. ❤️ They also discuss what causes “dating burnout,” how anxiety shows up on dates and drives people away (and tips on how to heal it), why women put men on a pedestal and give their power away, growing up religious and how that impacts your energetic blueprint for dating, how men can face and feel their emotions through solitude, why "keeping score" is your sign to re-examine your relationship, how a service mindset creates infinite love... and so much more. Thank you for listening! We’d love to hear what resonated with you. 💌 ✨ Listen Before Love youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ElleBeecher ✨ Elle's twitter: https://x.com/ellebeecher ✨ Cam's twitter: https://x.com/thecameronhogan ✨ Connect with Elle: https://www.ellebeecher.com/ ✨ Connect with Cam: https://www.thecameronhogan.com/ ✨ Join our daily gratitude call: https://skool.com/greatmorning/about CHAPTERS:00:00 [Trailer] Energy Doesn’t Lie: Don’t Over-Research or Strategize in Love02:15 Welcome Back & Trusting Yourself to Show Up With No Prep4:10 Energy Dynamics: Comfortable vs. Caring A Lot08:10 People Can Feel Anxious Energy in Dating14:00 Women Are Putting Men on Pedestals & Giving Their Power Away18:00 The Danger of Over-Researching in Dating21:09 “Dating Burnout”28:00 Women Are Blinded By Love Stories 30:01 Relationships That Feel Forced Come From the Mind33:33 Why People Settle & An Example From Elle’s Past42:20 “Are We Incompatible or Can We Work on This?”49:00 If You Keep Score, This Ain’t It54:12 The Infinite Game of Love and Service58:40 Masculine & Feminine Energies01:06:00 Growing Up Catholic & Why Elle Was Afraid of Men01:09:00 [Trigger Warning] Elle’s Sexual Assault on a Flight 01:18:08 Aziz Ansari & Why Women Carry Trauma Into Dating01:28:00 How Elle Healed Her Anxiety & Tangible Advice 01:36:00 Men Need to Face Their Feelings & Let Go01:43:00 Why Do People Self-Sabotage?1:50:00 Why We Need Solitude1:57:23 Outro & Join Us For Fun Projects!