Dave Hawkshaw: Earning Your NFL Stripes, Retaining Referees & Best Seat in the House

Most conversations about improving youth sports focus on athletes, parents, and coaches. This one looks at the people everyone else seems to forget — the officials. Dave Hawkshaw is the only Canadian to hold a full-time position as an NFL official. He has officiated over 100 games in the world's top football league after 13 years in the CFL, but his journey started the same way thousands of young Canadians begin theirs — as a teenager at a community park, picking up a whistle because his dad asked him to come out on a Sunday morning. In this conversation with Scott Rintoul, Dave pulls back the curtain on what it actually takes to make it as an official at the highest level: the film study, the flashcards, the zoom calls, the rule tests, the cross-country travel. And he makes the case that officiating is as demanding and as rewarding as any role in sport. But the heart of this episode is the youth sports officiating crisis unfolding right now. Young officials are being driven out of the game by coaches and parents who berate them from the sidelines. Sports across the country can't recruit enough officials to cover the games being played. Dave has seen it all as someone who started officiating flag football as a teenager, as a father watching his daughters play basketball and soccer at high levels, and as a man who has been on the field for 100+ NFL games. He breaks down what healthy coach-official relationships look like, why everything trickles down from how a coach carries themselves on the sideline, how parents should think about their behavior in the stands, and why a simple thank-you after a game goes further than most parents realize. This is a perspective that rarely gets a seat at the table in the youth sports conversation. It needs one. Chapters 0:00 Opening 1:36 Introducing Dave Hawkshaw: Canada's only full-time NFL official 3:54 How it all started: flag football on Sunday mornings with his dad 6:15 Dave's youth sports experience 7:26 What his parents focused on: work ethic, respect, and team sports 9:36 Why respecting officials was non-negotiable in his household 10:50 Breaking in as a young official 11:28 What keeps officials coming back, and what drives them away 12:55 Key mentors along the way 15:00 Why officials give their time for very little money 16:38 The unlikely path from CFL the NFL 20:02 Balancing the NFL, the CFL, firefighting, and a young family 21:25 How much work officials actually put in 24:22 What a good referee looks like to someone who officiates the NFL 26:19 Why young officials quit and what it takes to keep them 29:32 What a healthy coach-official relationship looks like in youth sports 31:12 When coaches lose their composure and the domino effect 32:57 Why yelling at officials is poor leadership, not passion 34:59 Tools officials can use to manage difficult situations 35:45 Advice for parents who know they get caught up in the emotion 37:21 Why do we only hold officials to a standard of perfection? 38:30 Having his daughters pick up the whistle 41:00 What Dave wants his daughters to take from sport 42:23 How youth sports has changed: early specialization 44:09 The pressure and financial investment parents bring to games 48:19 Has sideline behavior gotten better over the years? 49:12 Where the line is: what actually crosses it for a seasoned official 50:12 How to set the right tone early in a game without over-officiating 52:50 The power of a simple post-game thank-you from a coach or player 53:38 The biggest issue in youth sports today Resources: https://www.bcfootballhalloffame.com/dave-hawkshaw/