David H - Projection

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I’m joined by David Hackett.It’s a fascinating conversation because while David speaks openly about control, codependency, loneliness, and emotional pressure inside his previous marriage, there are still moments where you can hear how easy it is for all of us to stay focused on what the other person did.Not from malice. Not from manipulation. Just from being human.That’s what made this conversation interesting to me. Listening to someone genuinely trying to make sense of their life while still unconsciously sitting inside parts of the same patterns most of us do. The need to explain. The need to justify. The need to make sense of pain by locating the cause outside ourselves.And to be fair, some of what he describes sounds genuinely difficult. There are clear elements of emotional control, anxiety, pressure, and losing yourself inside a relationship dynamic. But what fascinated me was hearing how awareness starts to form in real time. You can almost hear someone halfway between blame and accountability.That space is uncomfortable as fuck.Because once we stop seeing ourselves as completely innocent, we also have to start asking harder questions. Why did I stay? Why did I ignore myself? What part of me accepted that dynamic? That is where the real work starts.This conversation with David, shows the human condition of relationships, without blaming or defending his ex wife. It is about showing how messy relationships actually are when two people collide.And now another layer has opened up.David’s ex wife has reached out and wants to tell her side of the story.It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME. In Session with a PsychotherapistHosted by Chad Taylor. Author of It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s MENo tips.No fixing.Just real conversations.WEBSITEINSTAGRAM BOOK SALES: SHOPIFYGROUPS/COURSES: PATREON