David Neal: leadership is not about you (#42)

1:39 - from enemies to best mates.6:12 - there is nothing noble about being harmless.7:06 - avoiding or engaging with conflict.7:27 - what makes a leader?8:50 - good leadership looks different in different contexts.11:40 - the leadership style in the military.12:59 - how values and beliefs impact team performance.15:12 - navigating the conflicts that arise from having a diverse team.15:35 - definition of leadership.16:30 - diversity is contextual. What are you trying to achieve?18:43 - are you trying to be right or correct?20:36 - leaders represent people authentically in forums where they cannot represent themselves.22:18 - trying to be right disengages people around you.23:41 - it's better to lose the battle and keep the relationship, especially with your kids.25:07 - extreme ownership and admitting mistakes.27:28 - where the name Eighth Mile Consulting came from.29:18 - owning our mistakes turns our weakness into a strength.31:39 - owning your faults increases your credibility and your ability to influence.32:55 - steelman and strawman debating tactics.36:01 - influence starts by listening, not speaking.38:14 - it takes discipline to shut up and listen.41:55 - I don't have time to listen.44:02 - why boundaries give more freedom.52:14 - boundaries with children.54:46 - just do what makes you happy is terrible advice.56:46 - the standard you walk past is the standard you accept.58:18 - sometimes leaders only have bad options to choose from.1:00:14 - leadership is not about you.1:02:44 - a leader's reputation is their influence.1:06:1 - making an unpopular decision that you believe will be best for the long term.1:10:49 - reputation is based on your character but not fully in your own control.1:12:57 - how to become more self-aware as leaders.1:15:30 - everyone is a leader.1:16:11 - how to create a safe space for people to speak up.1:18:55 - empathy saved the world.1:24:7 - our ego can be our greatest enemy.1:26:12 - connect with David Neal. You can find more detailed show notes with links to references at: https://candourpodcast.com/david-neal/