Day 5 — How Couples Accidentally Fight After Family Gatherings

Fun holiday experiment:Go to a family gathering totally in love, regulated, and aligned.Now leave and explain why the vibe is off in the car without starting a fight.We’ll wait.If you’ve ever had that moment — where nothing technically went wrong, but everything feels a little… off — you’re not alone.In today’s episode, the final day of We Love Our Family… But Damn, we’re unpacking the invisible ways family tension sneaks into relationships — even when it’s not your argument, your drama, or your responsibility.We talk about:* why being around family can suddenly make you feel 14 again* the psychology behind why old patterns resurface around parents* emotional bids — the small, easy-to-miss moments that either keep couples connected or quietly pull them apart* and how play (yes, actual play) can regulate nervous systems, diffuse tension, and bring people back together when talking doesn’t helpWe also share what helped us this holiday — not perfect communication, not deep processing mid-chaos — but tiny moments of connection that made a big difference.This episode isn’t about fixing your family.It’s about protecting your relationship.And if this series has made you laugh, think, or feel a little steadier in your relationships — stay subscribed!We’ll keep checking in on both the love climate and the life decisions families are navigating together.Because love doesn’t happen in a vacuum.And neither does family.We love our family…but damn.Kristen + Roger This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bykristenlee.substack.com