Day521-更好的社交圈，你值得拥有！

你值得更好的社交圈There is a saying that who you socialize with defines who you are.I find it very inspiring.Find a healthier socializing way.有一句话叫：你的社交关系决定了你是什么样的人。我觉得这非常醍醐灌顶。找些更有营养的社交方式吧。Don't fall into the pit of gossip, especially not in the office.The reason some people participate in workplace gossip in the first place is that they are afraid of being isolated.别掉进八卦的深坑，尤其不要在职场里。有些人参与职场八卦的原因是：他们害怕被孤立。 If this is exactly your situation, then you are drinking poison to quench thirst.One of the worst things of workplace gossip is that it does not have much logic. Participants simply hope that other people will recognize their opinions so that they themselves can get emotional satisfaction.People who share the same opinions as them are friends, otherwise they are enemies.如果这说的正好是你，那么你这就是饮鸩止渴了。职场八卦最要命的一点是它并没有太多真正的逻辑，参与者们只是单纯希望其他人都来认可自己的观点，进而得到情绪上的满足。观点一致就是朋友，观点不一致就是敌人。  Whether the gossip concerns the family life of a colleague or private life of a celebrity, it is essentially the same.Such kind of socializing will not give you any chance of self-improvement. Instead, it may lead you to a moral abduction.不管八卦内容是同事的家长里短，还是明星私生活，本质上都是这样。这样的社交不会给你带来任何自我提升的机会，还可能让你遭遇道德绑架。 It would be better for you to take some courses and learn skills that interest you in your spare time.Or you can join some hobby groups and meet like-minded people.There goes an old saying: We would rather fight with a sensible person than argue with an idiot.不如利用业余时间去参加些课程，学一些自己感兴趣的技能。或者是参加一些兴趣组织，找一些志同道合。有句老话说得好：常与同好争高下，莫与傻瓜论短长。 Language focus 语言焦点：1. Socialize [v] /ˈsəʊʃəl-aɪz/to spend time with other people in a friendly way 交往；来往socialize with someone和某人交往eg. I enjoy socializing with the other students我喜欢和同学来往。2. Define [v] /dɪˈfaɪn/ to say or explain what the meaning of a word or phrase is 解释(词语的含)；给…下定义e.g. The term 'mental illness' is difficult to define.  "精神病"这个词很难下定义。3. Inspiring [adj] /ɪnˈspaɪərɪŋ/giving people a feeling of excitement and a desire to do something great 鼓舞人心的；启发灵感的；激励的eg. His speech was inspiring and touched my heart.他的发言鼓舞人心, 动人肺腑。4. Pit /pɪt/A large deep hole in the ground 深洞；深坑eg. We dug a deep pit in the yard.我们在院子中挖了个深洞。5. Gossip /ˈɡɑːsɪp/[n] informal talk or stories about other people's private lives, that may be unkind or not true 流言蜚语；八卦eg. Don't believe all the gossip you hear. 别对那些道听途说都信以为真。6. Isolate [v] /ˈaɪsəleɪt/ to separate one person, group, or thing from other people or things 使隔离，孤立eg. Patients with the disease should be isolated.  这种病的患者应予以隔离。7. Drink poison to quench thirst= quench a thirst with poison 饮鸩止渴8. Essentially [adv] /ɪˈsenʃəli/本质上；基本上eg. There are three essentially different ways of tackling the problem. 解决这个问题有三种本质上完全不同的方法。9. Moral abduction 道德绑架Moral [adj] /ˈmɒrəl/ 道德上的eg. Traditional moral values 传统的道德观念Abduction [n] /æb'dʌkʃn/ 绑架Abduct [v]/əbˈdʌkt/=kidnap /ˈkɪdnæp/ 绑架eg. the millionaire who disappeared may have been abducted. 失踪的百万富翁可能已被绑架10. Like-minded [adj]having similar ideas and interests 志趣相投的；志同道合的；有相同想法的mind 头脑；大脑Great minds think alike 英雄所见略同11. Sensible [adj] /ˈsensəbəl/  reasonable, practical, and showing good judgment 明智的；理智的；合理的；切合实际的eg. She's a sensible sort of person. 她属于那种通情达理的人。12. Idiot 傻瓜；笨蛋eg. it’s all your fault, you idiot 全是你的错，笨蛋！