Deb Miller - Licensed Psychologist and Relationship & Affair Recovery expert

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Deb Miller, a licensed professional counselor with over 30 years of experience, to explore one of the most difficult — and misunderstood — relationship ruptures: infidelity.Dr. Miller, author of More Than Sorry: Five Steps to Deepen Your Apology After You’ve Committed Infidelity, shares a grounded, compassionate framework for repairing trust after betrayal — one that goes far beyond simply saying “I’m sorry.”We discuss why affair recovery often fails when the focus stays only on the wounded partner, and why real repair requires humility, empathy, self-reflection, and sustained behavioral change from the partner who violated trust.Topics include:What actually defines infidelity (and what doesn’t)Why secrecy, not sex, is the deepest betrayalHow to give an apology that restores dignity and safetyWhy “I don’t know why” is honest — but not enoughThe role of dopamine, validation, boredom, and unmet needsHow attachment styles and self-sabotage influence affairsWhy trust is rarely restored to 100% — and why that’s okayHow to rebuild connection without retraumatizingOnline affairs, porn, and modern boundary confusionWhen and how to disclose past infidelity when dating againThe difference between being a bad person and doing harmWhy self-forgiveness is essential to becoming trustworthy againThis episode is essential listening for anyone navigating betrayal, rebuilding trust, dating after infidelity, or wanting a more honest and emotionally mature relationship.Find Dr. Miller at: https://drdebmiller.comBook: More Than SorryFor a video only, typology based dating app, visit www.amoraea.com