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EPISODE · Jun 8, 2026 · 18 MIN

Debrief | Scapegoating, Humiliation, & Reality Control in Tommy’s Story

from Narcissist Apocalypse: Patterns of Abuse · host Abuse Survivor Network

In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon breaks down the patterns in Tommy’s story, including family scapegoating, public humiliation, body shaming, circular conversations, and the loss of safety inside the home. Tommy grew up with a father who needed control over the family image, the household rules, and the people around him. As Tommy got older, he became the target of criticism, shame, intimidation, and impossible expectations. In this debrief, Brandon explores how humiliation can be used as a control tactic, how a child can learn to disappear in order to survive, the fear of asking for help, and how reality control can make someone doubt their own reactions. Click if you want to be a guest on our survivor story podcast, please send us an email at [email protected] Click on the title to read about Coercive Control as Care: Signs & Patterns Sign up to our Domestic Violence Newsletter  Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

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In this debrief episode of Narcissist Apocalypse, Brandon breaks down the patterns in Tommy’s story, including family scapegoating, public humiliation, body shaming, circular conversations, and the loss of safety inside the home. Tommy grew up with a father who needed control over the family image, the household rules, and the people around him. As Tommy got older, he became the target of criticism, shame, intimidation, and impossible expectations. In this debrief, Brandon explores how humiliation can be used as a control tactic, how a child can learn to disappear in order to survive, the fear of asking for help, and how reality control can make someone doubt their own reactions.

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