Debunking the Myth of Automatic Intimacy

Marie and Adam tackle one of the biggest myths in relationships: that intimacy should just happen automatically. In this episode, they break down why waiting for spontaneous connection often leads to disappointment — and how intentional scheduling can actually increase spontaneity.In this episode:Good news check-in: 4th of July reflections and an exciting quarterly business meetingThe myth of "automatic intimacy" and where it comes from (hello, 90s rom-coms)Why consent conversations are ongoing alignment discussions, not one-time talksThe different types of intimacy: intellectual, physical, and emotional — and knowing your own styleWhy scheduling intimacy actually creates more spontaneity, not lessThe importance of aftercare — even outside of BDSM contexts — for processing intimate experiencesWhat to do when only one partner is willing to have these conversationsCore values shout-outs: continuous growth and playKey takeaway: Intimacy isn't something you're supposed to just "know." It requires ongoing, intentional conversation — about wants, needs, and boundaries — repeated often, not just once.Resources mentioned:Free weekly connection workbook for entrepreneurial couples (link in show notes)Subscribe, rate, and share this episode with a couple who could use this conversation.