Decolonizing the Single Woman's Mindset with Fanny Tristan, LCSW

In this raw and resonant conversation, host Deborah Moffatt of The Healing Version sits down with licensed clinical social worker and founder of Restority Space, Fanny Tristan, to unpack the complex intersection of trauma, womanhood, and singlehood for Black and Brown women. Fanny shares her journey into social work and how her personal experiences as an eldest daughter shaped her trauma-informed approach. She highlights the unique emotional challenges that firstborn daughters face—especially perfectionism, anxiety, and depression—and how these intersect with systemic pressures around relationships, marriage, and motherhood. Together, Deborah and Fanny dive deep into the colonized mindsets around love, self-worth, and gender roles. Fanny explains how women often internalize shame or a sense of being "behind" when single in their 30s or 40s, and why therapy shouldn't always be about diagnosing but about creating supportive, holistic environments where women can thrive. Fanny also discusses how her platform, Her Soul Supply, offers live masterclasses, retreats (like her recent one in Oaxaca, Mexico), and group coaching for single Black and Brown women to heal, explore their identity, and form intentional sisterhood. This episode is a rich, unfiltered reminder that: You don't have to be chosen to be worthy. Softness requires safety. Sisterhood heals. Healing is political. 🔗 Learn more about Fanny's work: Website: restorityspace.com Retreats + Programs: hersoulsupply.com Instagram: @fannytristanlcsw If you'd like to donate to The Healing Version podcast, you can send contributions via: 💸 CashApp: $thehealingversion 🫶 Patreon: patreon.com/thehealingversion Your support helps us continue sharing meaningful conversations 🎙️, uplifting stories 📖, and promoting real healing in our community 🌿. Thank you in advance for being part of the Healing Tribe! 🙌🏽💛 👉🏾 Follow and explore our new website: thehealingversion.com — your new home for healing, updates, merch, and more! 💫