Defeat Self-Defeat with Dr. Mark Goulston

What We Discuss in this Episode: One of our society's biggest challenges is our lack of emotional intimacy. We learn to replace emotional intimacy with achievement, and we stay there until we realize it's empty. We live with four emotions: excitement, boredom, fear, and anger. Getting yourself off the achievement treadmill can seem impossible. Try this simple exercise: Rate your calendar on a scale of "I'm really looking forward to this" and "I'm really dreading this." Then ask yourself, what do the events I'm looking forward to have in common, and vice versa? When you focus on achievement, you're running on adrenaline, and that is a young person's game. When you ask someone how they're doing and they say, "great," they're usually good. If they say they're doing fine, they're usually not. Mentioned in the Podcast: Goulston's TEDx "What Made You Smile Today?" and #WMYST Challenge Take The Achiever's Compass My Wakeup Call with Chip Conley Daring to Care: How to Build a Heartfelt Company Jason Reid's TEDx, "The most important conversation you will have with your kids" Defeating Self Defeat by Dr. Goulston Dr. Mark Goulston Originally a UCLA professor of psychiatry for over 25 years, and a former FBI and police hostage negotiation trainer, Dr. Mark Goulston's expertise has been forged and proven in the crucible of real-life, high stakes situations. An influencer who helps influencers become more influential, his unique background has made him an indispensable and sought-after resource and change facilitator to Fortune 500 leaders, entrepreneurs and educators across the nation. He lives with his wife in Los Angeles, California.