Denial: when your ageing parent says they’re fine | Dr Stephanie Ward | Club Sandwich

When your mum or dad insists everything is fine, but you can see the fall risk, the spoiled food, the missed cues and the slow slide, it can make you feel like you’re losing your mind. This episode is for the daughter who’s being called bossy when what she really is, is exhausted, worried, and carrying too much. Ageing parents? You’ve got them. We’ve got you. JOIN THE CLUB: Visit clubsandwich.community to join the tribe, access resources, and find our private Facebook community.SEND US YOUR QUESTION: [email protected] The Conversation: Sarah Macdonald and Dr Stephanie Ward dive into denial, resistance, dignity, autonomy, cognitive change, and how to help an ageing parent who refuses support.This Week’s Hack: Don’t try to fix everything at once. Pick one concrete safety issue, revisit it gently, and frame support as something that helps you too: “Would you do this one thing for me?” Listener Letter: Anjali, 58, is caring for her 84-year-old parents. Dad has had a fall. Mum can barely see the stove. Their house feels unsafe, but every suggestion of help is met with “No, we’re fine.” She wants to know how to face reality without destroying their dignity.Hot Mess Moment: You’re over there four times a week, finding wilted food, mildew in the washing machine, and signs things are slipping, while the interstate sibling visits for a roast and says, “They seem fine to me.” Meet the regular Clubbers: Melissa Reader - CEO of Vera and expert on Australia’s ageing crisis.Jo Lamble - Clinical psychologist specializing in guilt and family dynamics.Dr Ginni Mansberg - GP and women’s health advocate who tells it straight.Dr Stephanie Ward - Geriatrician helping you understand when “old” becomes a crisis.Kerry Milligan - Gogglebox star bringing humor and honesty to the sandwich generation. Topics covered this episode: ageing parents in denial, refusing help, loss of independence, dignity of risk, cognitive change, dementia concerns, My Aged Care, caregiver burnout, sibling denial, safety at home, autonomy, how to talk to resistant parents Club Sandwich is brought to you by Australian Unity. Visit AustralianUnity.com.au/ClubSandwich Credits Club Sandwich is brought to you by Vera.guide, helping families caring for ageing parents navigate this stage of life so you don’t have to do it alone. Download Vera's free "home is where the heart is: how to keep them there - practical field guide to navigating aged care" at clubsandwich.community/resources Sarah Macdonald - Host + Executive ProducerMelissa Reader - Commissioning Editor, Executive Producer + ClubberRachel Fountain - Executive ProducerAudio + video edits by Fountain Media GroupThanks and kudos to Sean Wayland for our awesome theme music Club Sandwich - hear more from Sean at seanwayland.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.