Deprogramming Desire: My Journey Into Sex Positivity

Sex positivity gets thrown around a lot—in hashtags, in headlines, even as a trendy identity. But what does it actually mean in real life? In this episode, I unpack what sex positivity looks like off the internet and inside real relationships.I share how my own story—from abstinence and a sexually-anorexic marriage to divorce, curiosity, and freedom—reshaped the way I think about sex and desire. For me, sex positivity isn’t about being boundaryless, hypersexual, or saying yes to everything. It’s about honesty, self-awareness, and giving myself permission to say yes, no, or maybe—without guilt.We’ll talk about:Why sex positivity is more about freedom of thought than behavior.How cultural rules and “should's” shape our sexuality without us realizing it.The difference between being sexual and being sensual.Why curiosity and permission are at the heart of sex positivity.The surprising role of guilt, shame, and deprogramming in our sexual journeys.If you’ve ever wondered what sex positivity means beyond Instagram captions, this episode is for you. It’s not about being provocative for the sake of it—it’s about trading performance for truth and discovering freedom in your own body and desires.Listen in, reflect on your own “shoulds,” and consider: What would sex positivity look like for you, today?