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EPISODE · May 16, 2025 · 48 MIN

"Desire Should Be Clumsy": a Mantra, a Motto, a Call to Arms - All Fours Chapter 9

from Work From Bed Friday · host Amy Hoffmann & Tommy Borden

When our character learns that Davey’s first sexual encounters were orchestrated by his mother with his mother’s very experienced friend, she is, understandably, flabbergasted. But the thought that emerges later has morphed into something of a motto or a mantra for Amy and Tommy.  Miranda July writes, “An overly skilled lover was kind of icky—desire should make you clumsy.” Indeed. Clumsy indeed.In Amy & Tommy’s romp through Chapter 9 of All Fours, they question the linearity of sex, wonder about clogged fourth chakras (shouldn’t it be clogged sacral chakras? Someone help!) and consider the irony of a particular kind of confluence: what happens when the things you hate about someone become the very things that catapult you into love? Read along or just enjoy the ride! Subscribe to Work From Bed Friday wherever you get your podcasts. BIG NEWS: To join in the discussion, subscribe to our Substack here! Next week: Chapter 10!Original MusicSong: Some People Do Have to Live Like a Refugee Because They Are..Artist: Muistardeaux CollectiveAlbum: KTWESink Sandwich RecordsReferences in this episode:All Fours by Miranda July"What Cuba taught me about Flirting and Sensuality" an essay by Namita KulkarniMi Moto Fidel: Motorcycling Through Castro's Cuba by Christopher P. BakerMiranda July dancing on InstagramMiranda July interviews Rihanna (Arkanda?) for the New York Times Send us Fan MailDon't miss the good stuff! Sign up for our monthly newsletter here—it includes book reviews, date night ideas, and more juicy tidbits from the bed and beyond! Plus, you'll get links to alllllll the latest episodes!Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed. 

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When our character learns that Davey’s first sexual encounters were orchestrated by his mother with his mother’s very experienced friend, she is, understandably, flabbergasted. But the thought that emerges later has morphed into something of a motto or a mantra for Amy and Tommy. Miranda July writes, “An overly skilled lover was kind of icky—desire should make you clumsy.” Indeed. Clumsy indeed. In Amy & Tommy’s romp through Chapter 9 of All Fours, they question the linearity of sex...

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