第1593期:Dealing with grief

If there is one thing in life that we could choose not to experience, it is the death of someone we love. Losing a friend or family member is heartbreaking and hard to accept, but how we deal with it, and how we ‘move on’, varies from person to person.如果生活中有一件事是我们可以选择不经历的，那就是我们所爱的人的死。失去朋友或家人令人心碎且难以接受，但我们如何处理它，以及我们如何“继续前进”，因人而异。Death is, of course, inevitable, but sometimes we feel the passing of a loved one has come too soon. Our first reaction is to grieve, and even though we may soon be encouraged to accept closure and let go, the grieving can last a while. But grief is a very natural, human response to loss and can take the form of many unexpected emotions, from shock to guilt, anger and disbelief.死亡当然是不可避免的，但有时我们会觉得亲人的去世来得太早了。我们的第一反应是悲伤，尽管我们可能很快会被鼓励接受关闭并放手，但悲伤可能会持续一段时间。但悲伤是一种非常自然的人类对失去的反应，可以采取许多意想不到的情绪形式，从震惊到内疚、愤怒和怀疑。When someone dies, we may be tempted to put on a brave face and hide our feelings. But experts say that this is the time to talk about feelings – even cry and sob and show people you are suffering. There’s nothing wrong with trying to keep the memory of the deceased alive. You can talk to them in your head, write them a letter or share memories with other people who knew them.当有人去世时，我们可能会试图装出勇敢的面孔并隐藏我们的感受。但专家说，现在是谈论感受的时候了——甚至哭泣和抽泣，向人们展示你正在受苦。试图让死者的记忆保持活力并没有错。您可以在脑海中与他们交谈，给他们写信或与其他认识他们的人分享回忆。Some people have chosen to make a more permanent reminder of someone by getting a memorial tattoo. Dr John Troyer from Bath University told the BBC: “You can have a continuing bond with the dead… I think it’s a very important way for people to come to terms that someone’s left.”有些人选择通过获得纪念纹身来更永久地提醒某人。巴斯大学的约翰·特洛耶博士告诉 BBC：“你可以与死者保持持续的联系……我认为这是人们接受某人离开的一种非常重要的方式。”Whatever approach you take to grieving and to keeping someone’s memory alive, eventually the physical aching and pain caused by the loss of a loved one will subside. But the memories of that person and the times we shared can stay with us forever, and talking about them and expressing your feelings is all part of the healing process. But as singer and songwriter Patti Smith told the BBC: “Loss is something that we never get over.”无论您采取何种方法来悲伤和保持对某人的记忆，最终因失去亲人而造成的身体疼痛和痛苦都会消退。但是那个人的记忆和我们共享的时光可以永远留在我们身边，谈论他们并表达你的感受是治愈过程的一部分。但正如歌手兼词曲作者帕蒂史密斯告诉 BBC 的那样：“失去是我们永远无法克服的事情。”词汇表lose 失去heartbreaking 令人心碎的move on 接受现实，继续向前inevitable 不可避免的，必然发生的passing 逝世grieve （因某人过世而）伤心，悲痛closure 解脱，宽慰let go 放手grief 悲痛，悲哀disbelief 怀疑，不相信put on a brave face 强装勇敢，假装不在乎sob 抽泣suffer 受苦，经历（坏事）memory 记忆，回忆the deceased 去世的人，亡故者memorial 纪念性的，追悼的come to terms (with something) 逐渐接受loved one 亲人，家人healing process 治愈过程