Digital Intimidation: How Shame Becomes the Perfect Weapon

In this episode of Unzipping Taboos, we’re digging into the world of digital intimidation — sextortion, deepfakes, and the non-consensual sharing of intimate content — and the sexual shame that allows these threats to take hold. We each share our own encounters with sextortion attempts and unpack how these messages are crafted to provoke panic, silence, and self-blame. The tech may be newer, but the tactic is familiar: it leverages the shame we’ve been conditioned to fear.We talk about how sexual curiosity and watching porn are still treated as something illicit, and how that judgment becomes the leverage behind digital coercion. We explore why the term “revenge porn” misses the point, what the new Take It Down Act means, and how deepfakes are creating a new layer of harm and confusion around consent and credibility. Throughout our conversation, we rebuke the idea that victims are responsible for what was done to them and highlight the importance of digital literacy and open, shame-free dialogue.At its core, this episode is about understanding how digital threats work and rejecting the shame they depend on. If you’ve ever felt fear around your digital footprint or worried about intimate content online, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and a reminder that your sexuality isn’t the problem — the stigma is.If you received a sextortion email you can report it to the Federal Trade CommissionIf you need help getting out of a controlling relationship, you can visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline. You’ll find information on their page for how to chat, text or call if you need help. If you have a story, thoughts and/or a topic or question for Dr. Sue and Charlie please share your ideas here:  ⁠Show suggestions