Divorce, Money & Financial Infidelity: What Every Woman Needs to Know | Shannon Ryan

Key Points, Top Takeaways and Memorable Quotes -  “Divorce is emotional, but it’s also a business transaction.” 3:39 “Start by not making any additionally big changes at the moment.” 4:09 “There is an assumption that everything has to be divided right now.” 6:00 “There are a lot more options than we actually identify in that emotional state.”  6:41 “I share your enthusiasm at helping them become financially independent so they know they have choices, they can step out of their fear, and they can feel empowered too.” - Ann @ 9:40 “Money transparency is critical for the foundation of a marriage.” 27:49 "The number one thing that leads people to come to me is not infidelity. It's financial issues." - Ann @ 28:00 “Ignorance is not bliss, it creates big problems inside of a marriage.” 29:16 “The statutory code provides that married people are in a fiduciary relationship to one another, and they owe each other a duty of good faith and fair dealing as though they are business partners, and they have an obligation under the law to share with one another potential business opportunities and investments.” - Ann @ 29:37 “The most important thing that we can do as humans with our money is align our money with our values and really understand what we want financially.” 34:04 Guest Bio - Shannon Ryan is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ professional, TEDx speaker, author, and nationally recognized behavioral finance advocate with more than two decades of experience helping individuals and families navigate the emotional side of money. Her TEDx talk, “Confronting Your Financial Scar Tissue,” explores how personal experiences, beliefs, and emotional patterns shape financial decision-making and long-term wealth behaviors. Shannon is the founder of The Heavy Purse™, a platform focused on the intersection of money, emotions, and human behavior. Through her speaking, writing, and client work, she helps people better understand the emotional weight they carry around money and how it impacts their financial decisions, relationships, and sense of self-worth. In Fall 2025, Shannon released her book, Your Money Has Feelings™, which explores the hidden emotional drivers behind financial behaviors and offers a more human-centered approach to wealth, healing, and financial decision-making. She has appeared on national media outlets including Good Morning America, CNBC, and PBS, and was invited to the White House in recognition of her work supporting financial issues impacting women. For more than a decade, Shannon has been recognized on the Forbes Top Women Wealth Advisors and Best-in-State Wealth Advisors lists, reflecting her long-standing leadership, client impact, and influence within the wealth management industry. Show Notes -  0:00 - Divorce Hacker Intro 0:50 - Introducing Shannon Ryan 2:08 - What Lead You to Help People Navigate Finance? 3:00 - Advice for Women Not Working & Going through a Divorce 6:58 - Empower Divorcing Women to Gain Financial Independence 9:33 - Advice for Women Fearful of Losing the Family Home 14:41 - A Discussion on Financial Infidelity  19:23 - How Do You Help Women Build Their Wealth Post-Divorce? 23:37 - How to Avoid A Financial Fallout From Your Marriage 31:10 - Talking About Money Philosophies with Your Significant Other 33:29 - The Problem of Not Having Enough Money 37:39 - Your Money Has Feelings by Shannon Ryan 37:57 - Thank You & Divorce Hacker Closing For more about Ann Grant and Family Law Center of Southern California, please visit: https://www.famlawsc.com/