Do Cheaters Always Cheat?

Enjoy the episode? Send us a text! Do cheaters always cheat? You've heard it from your mom. Your best friend. Maybe even a counselor who has never met your spouse. After 30 years of working with marriages in crisis, we can tell you it isn't true. Not for most people. In this video, Dr. Joe Beam breaks down three different kinds of affairs, because the answer to your question changes completely depending on which one you're actually dealing with. The high opportunity, low involvement affair. Wrong place, wrong time, no real emotional connection. The emotional affair. Limerence. Consuming, powerful, and it has a shelf life. The habitual affair. The one that keeps repeating until something underneath it finally gets addressed. Three very different situations. Three very different answers. Here's what decades of workshops and couples have shown us. When both spouses figure out how it happened, and then repair what made it possible, the vast majority never cheat again. But "figure out" is doing a lot of work in that sentence. You can't just reset and hope. You have to understand it. Then you have to build something different in its place. So the real question isn't whether cheaters always cheat. The real question is this. Is your spouse a good person who did a bad thing, or a bad person who did a bad thing? Because one of those can be repaired. In this video, Dr. Joe walks you through how to tell the difference, why almost everyone advising you right now is a biased source, and what it takes to build a marriage that's stronger than the one you had before the affair. If you're struggling in your marriage, don’t wait. Get our FREE resource: The 7 Steps to Rescue Your Marriage 👉 https://marriagehelper.com/free 📞 BOOK A CALL WITH OUR TEAM: https://bit.ly/4fhb9Yz 🔗 Website: https://marriagehelper.com 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marriagehelper 👀 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marriagehelper Follow our other channels! 📺 https://youtube.com/@kimberlybeamholmes 📺 https://youtube.com/@drjoebeam