Do You Even Know Who You are Anymore?

Many women spend years — sometimes decades — living according to expectations rather than truth.Caring for others.Achieving goals.Fulfilling roles.Holding everything together.And somewhere along the way, they lose themselves.In this episode of Soft Life with God, Melissa Bourne explores authenticity as a core spiritual value and what it really means to rediscover who you are after self-abandonment, burnout, or major life transitions.Through personal experiences — including postpartum identity shifts, career upheaval, and a profound spiritual awakening — Melissa shares how the search for authenticity often begins with a simple but unsettling question:“Who am I?”She discusses the confusion that comes when you realize identity isn’t fixed, the harmful belief that you are “fake,” and the difficult but freeing process of saying no, disappointing others, and prioritizing your own energy.Ultimately, authenticity is reframed not as self-improvement, but as a return — a homecoming to the person you were created to be.In This Episode* Why many women lose their identity in relationships, careers, or motherhood* How self-abandonment develops from always putting others first* The postpartum identity shift and its emotional impact* The spiritual awakening that sparked a search for self* Why believing you are “fake” can disconnect you from your true self* The role of boundaries and saying no in authentic living* Sensitivity and solitude during healing* Accepting flaws, mistakes, and imperfection* Authenticity as remembering, not reinventingKey TakeawayAuthenticity is not about becoming someone new.It is about releasing guilt, shame, and expectations so you can return to who you have always been.When you live truthfully with yourself, life becomes lighter, clearer, and more aligned with God’s design for you.Reflection QuestionTake time to reflect, journal, or pray on this:Where in your life are you abandoning yourself to meet the expectations of others?About the PodcastSoft Life with God is for strong women who are exhausted from carrying everything alone and are ready to rest in faith.Each episode offers spiritual insight and practical guidance for releasing pressure, reconnecting with God, and creating a life rooted in peace, clarity, and discernment.ConnectFollow the show for new episodes exploring responsibility, authenticity, reverence, and living a faith-led soft life. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit melissabourne.substack.com