Do You Just Need to “Relax” or is Something Else Making Sex Hurt?

That’s one of the questions we explore in this Language of Love Session, as I dive into a letter from a listener, Veera, who’s grappling with some common and tricky troubles with intimacy, body image, and self-worth. Veera’s been feeling discomfort and even bleeding during sex with her new partner. She’s wondering, “Is this just because I’m getting older, or are we not a good match?” Veera’s partner suggests she should “relax” through intoxication, which is definitely not the best approach. If you’ve ever questioned whether you’re worthy of love (You absolutely are), you’ll want to stick around and hear my advice. We cover it all: What’s going on with your body when estrogen levels dip Simple fixes for dryness and discomfort during sex How to have honest, healthy conversations about intimacy Why mindfulness during sex beats numbing out How self-deprecating humor can reveal what we really think about ourselves And as always, if you have any questions, send them to [email protected], or visit my website to join the conversation. I'd love to have you on the show! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices