Hello, episode three reading papers with Martis. I did not look up what a host is without anybody hosting. I do not consider hosts, but we're going to be reading my paper. I did this semester for college class.
Actually, it was high school level, but it was in college. Does conversation help us? So, this was an analytical essay on a book called Reclaiming Conversation with the authors and therapists. You can see interviews about your people and by Sherry, Turkle.
So, conversation helps us in business, family, community, and friends. While technology is a useful tool, it's not a substitute for conversation. When technology is used for a substitute, it creates confusion, uncertainty, open-endness with the person you're trying to communicate with and hurts relationships with others and ourselves. Is the solution to get rid of technology or to reclaim conversation?
So, in business, you think, isn't it more productive if you stay at your desk, all day email co-workers, when you have a question or email a client instead of going and having lunch because you're spending all your time working, which makes sense. And more productive, and you get, you can work other projects at the same time. Ironically, technology has proved that more face-to-face conversation helps productive be stressed and worked on. Then we have a graduate of MIT who designed and developed a tool, a CTA metric badge, might have said that right, probably said that.
The tool observed many aspects of conversation. Now, the effects through body language and research from a lawyer, the research that he was doing this on was a lawyer firm, AGM, and found that the lawyers who spend more time face-to-face brought in more business. From these discoveries, many other business have designed their offices and jobs for conversation. So, studying conversation is essential to help your business.
Greening clients, productivity, technology is needed and helps. The key is to find a balance between the two. Which, I don't have much business experience. Actually, I've had no business experience.
I've had jobs, but I couldn't really speak into this necessarily. This is just what the book says, the research that I read off the book says, but they did. Family, now we need the family. This conversation is essential for kids to learn everything.
It's a bond and family asking questions about life or if you have trouble, what advice from your parents? Now, fighting in family, parents have used texting to have arguments because you can get your view through clearly. You have time to think about your response, and it's a less heated environment. Which is good reasons and a lot of conversations get out of hands, so I could definitely see the merits in fighting over texting.
Just other platforms then in person. While that's true, you'll take away the teaching of arguing in person, of being in control of your emotions to listen to and be able to empathize with another person's feelings and thinking. Now, building or keeping trust between children and parents needs conversation, which is hard to have when one is distracted by email, social media, texting. Now, Hillary has a problem with her mom.
This is an example I took out when she emailed a kid named Hillary. And Hillary has a problem with her mom jumping in and out of conversation to send emails or text. Hillary tells how this affects her. Trust, she says, trust knowing that someone is not understanding you, not paying attention to you makes it easy to lose trust.
If someone was on their phone and not really in the conversation, I don't feel like I can trust him as much. Which makes sense. There's not much point in talking if no one is actually hearing what you're saying. Technology is good for getting information across family conversation, whether it's just talking or fighting.
Hard conversation is what families are for. So teaching you to trust, meet with the responsibility, et cetera. That you're wearing from conversation. That's actually how you're wearing also, how to use the conversation to talk to other people outside of your family.
So, which I think was one of the examples in the book also. So next paragraph is about friendships. Now to grow friendships you need under interrupted conversation with texting, social media, put you into infinite choice mindset. The graph is always green here over there.
So, let's go there instead of being here where which distracts from the here and now. And Oliver puts it the best, puts it the importance of being present to his group. Do his like friends group. What if you're always looking for something better than you die?
This is, this is, uh, just wants, uh, you've searched all the way until you're dead. And you've never said, maybe I found it. So, conversation will happen with friends, go deeper, and that will help shape opinions, create ideas, connect with who you're with, if you feel that you're not being heard. You'll start looking for the greener gas.
Yeah, and I think, yeah, what, uh, Oliver, I think he makes good points and stuff. That you'll never know if you don't actually try to be in the present, but it's definitely hard when, because there's a lot of times, most of the time you're not actually having conversations with people, you're by yourself, so, and the phone's a lot more entertaining than just staring off. It's the distance which, staring off in the distance, gets you your mind so you can think alone, which is, which is also healthy and they make points about that in the book that you need to have time by yourself so that you can know yourself so you can distinguish other people from yourself and it's, and so then you can actually empathize with other people. I, which is, which makes sense, but I'm not, I'm not really a therapist, so I couldn't speak to any of my clients.
Bob, he really feels this way, but yeah, I think it makes sense. Alright, so, and then the phone paragraph, just kind of bring it all together, does conversation on. What's the solution to reclaiming it? Is it getting rid of technology for business?
It's putting time in face to face with clients, coworkers, bosses, chelp, prayer, ductity, and stress, quality of work. Now family conversation teaches empathy from sibling, parent, listening, trying to see from your perspective, which builds trust. Now, friendships staying in the present to have deeper conversations that grow your relationships, not getting lost in the world, everywhere else. And yes, conversation helps.
The solution, I believe, isn't to get rid of technology. That wasn't really her solution either, but to focus on one thing at a time, that be business, family, friendship, or technology. That's my favorite. Actually, I think this was honestly probably my best favorite of this semester.
Probably spent the most time on it. It was an interesting read. Not necessarily the electric units sometimes. I got a little bit repetitive with all the interviews, and a lot of it seemed to overlap with all the different ones, but it went into, I went into great detail, which I think was needed with the study.
She's done over years in different schools. She did it in schools, and she just interffered with single people. Just individual people, like Hillary, and then the guys from work. And then the one guy who was just talking about his friend, and there's countless others.
I got a lot of what I think was needed because it still showed the diversity of all the people she did in her view. It wasn't. I did this in my business, or with my clients. She's had an assistant in case studies, but she has a bunch of other folks, which I'm actually kind of interested in reading because I actually like this book.
I think that she'd do it. I'm going to try to keep up with doing this every week. I got it out a little late this week. But, let's do it again again again.
Alright, so I'll end it with that. Go get it done.