Don’t Change Your Mate—Change Your MIND

Want to rate your relationship on the three keys to great long term love? Take the Passion Quiz. “Dr. Cheryl, my spouse is driving me crazy! How can I fall in love with them again?” “I’m constantly annoyed by my partner, is it time to break up?” “Why is my sweetheart always doing things to piss me off?!” Think about a negative thought you’ve had about your partner—one that you might not be so eager to share publicly. Maybe they were late for a meaningful dinner, maybe they neglected an important chore, or maybe they even forgot about your anniversary… You were probably pretty irritated, right? But what if I were to tell you that it’s all about the way you react? On this episode of Sex, Love, and Elephants, I’m teaching you how to love what is and how we can be more grateful for the extraordinarily lucky lives that we lead.  The stories you tell yourself can ruin your relationship, ruin your happiness, and even ruin your health.  If you’re upset, disgruntled, or put off by your partner’s mundane mistakes or actions, it's your problem, not your sweetie’s. In This Episode, You Will Learn: 87 to 92% of people eventually recouple after a divorce, a break up, or being widowed (01:24) The misery in your head is in your head (05:27) Don’t allow a negative story to take up room in your head and ruin your day (08:41) Changing a behavioral habit is hard and it takes repetition (14:51) You are the one who makes yourself happy or not (18:12) Today’s LoveByte (22:34) Want to learn more about Buddhism and relationships? Cheryl’s book Buddha’s Bedroom is a great resource! Let’s Connect!   Website - Sign up for Weekly LoveBytes here  Youtube Follow @drcherylfraser on Instagram