Don't you want me baby

In this episode, I dive deep into the concept of Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD)—a term often discussed in relation to ADHD but not officially recognized in the DSM. I explore what RSD actually is, why so many people relate to the feelings it describes, and how our upbringing and internal dynamics (like the superego) might influence our reactions to perceived rejection.With practical examples and a psychodynamic lens, I walk listeners through why these feelings can be so overwhelming, how our minds create catastrophic narratives, and the importance of building self-awareness as a first step towards managing these patterns. I also discusses common defence mechanisms like splitting, projection, and projective identification, and encourages listeners to explore their own experiences with a sense of self-compassion.[00:0:58]I note RSD isn’t in the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) but is frequently discussed, especially in relation to ADHD. I share examples of how people might experience RSD (ruminating after interactions, overthinking messages, etc.)[00:03:41]Discussion of psychodynamic perspectives: roots of RSD often trace to primary caregivers (possibly parents) who were critical or rejecting. Introduction of Freud’s concept of the superego as the inner critical voice.[00:05:23]Defense mechanisms like splitting come into play; explains why we sometimes label others as "all bad" if we feel rejected.[00:07:41]Advice against making rash decisions when in a highly emotional state; try to ride out difficult feelings instead.[00:08:22]The value of talking to someone supportive—be that a coach, therapist, or trusted friend.[00:09:12]I share a personal anecdote about my friend Steve and how humour or distraction can help break the cycle.[00:10:40]Upcoming events: I announce a September webinar on defense mechanisms and pricing (for coaches), plus my Essential Psychodynamics course. I also share how listeners can get involved.DM or email me for a chat about psychodynamics, coaching, supervision, or if you’re interested in upcoming events.For more psychodynamic insights and fun, visit DynamicsOfEverydayLife.Connect with Julia:WebsiteLinkedInInstagramABOUT THE PODCASTThe Dynamics of Everyday Life explores the psychological patterns shaping how we think, work and relate to others; bringing psychodynamic thinking into coaching, leadership and everyday life.If you're a coach interested in learning more about psychodynamic approaches to coaching, you can explore Julia's training programmes on her website.FOLLOW THE PODCASTIf you're enjoying The Dynamics of Everyday Life, follow the podcast on your listening app so you don't miss future episodes.