Dr. Mitch Abrams - Why Anger Is Actually a Performance-Enhancing Drug (And How to Control It)

Send us Fan MailWhat if anger isn’t a problem to erase but a resource to master? I sit down with Dr. Mitch Abrams, Author of "I'm Not F*cking Angry," for a candid, no‑evasion conversation about relationships, performance, and the messy middle where emotions live. It starts with alignment in marriage—knowing your non‑negotiables around faith, kids, money, schooling, and independence—and why “healthy dependence” actually fuels independence in the world. We talk jealousy, security, and the courage it takes to support a partner’s growth without shrinking your own.From there, we move into the arena. Anger becomes a dial, not a switch: enough heat to compete, not so much you lose the play. You’ll hear simple, practical tools athletes and high performers can use today—hassle logs to spot triggers, portable rituals with music and breath to manage arousal, progressive muscle relaxation to take the edge off fast, and consequence forecasting to prevent the mistake you’ll regret. We challenge coaching practices that punish with conditioning, replacing them with systems that protect reps, reinforce process goals, and develop emotional intelligence. Great coaches are quiet psychologists; they read people, tailor standards, and celebrate effort, not just outcomes.We also take on the broader ecosystem: media sensationalism, the NIL and transfer churn, and the fragile trust that legalized gambling tests every weekend. Integrity isn’t a slogan; it’s the backbone of competition. When fans doubt the level playing field, everything cracks. Real reform requires incentives: assess character risk, attach penalties to behavior, and invest in treatment over optics. Through it all runs a simple thread—name what you feel, use what helps, drop what harms, and choose respect when the whistle stops. Subscribe, share this with a teammate or partner who needs it, and leave a review to tell us where your anger dial sits today.Support the showSubscribe, Download, Rate 5 stars only baby! Follow @ColkyJonov10 on all social media platforms.