Dr. Sam Greenberg | Sex and The Enneagram

Sexuality isn’t just behavior—it’s an internal experience. We sit down with researcher-coach Dr. Sam Greenberg to map how Enneagram type and instincts shape desire, cues, assertiveness, and intimacy. Sam outlines the gifts and challenges of each instinct, why instincts often predict sexual patterns more than type, how repressed instincts show up in the bedroom, and what happens in common pairings (like self-pres x sexual). We also hit evolutionary frames, honeymoon-phase myths, “service sex,” stress/context loads, and practical ways couples can reduce friction and increase connection—without shame.What you’ll learnA working definition of sexual desire vs. sexual behaviorWhy instincts set the framework and type adds nuanceGifts/challenges of self-pres, social, and sexual dominanceHow repressed instincts derail empathy, safety, or passionCommon pairing dynamics (self-pres × sexual, etc.) and best practicesWhy stress, sleep, money, and context change desire—and what to do about itConnect with our guestIG: @enneagasm (Sexy First Fridays with therapist Lindsay Frazier)Web: EnneagramSexpert.comAS always : all our best material is at : www.aroundthecircle.org