Dr. Thais Gibson: Overcoming Self-Sabotage And Reprogramming Your Behaviors And Beliefs

I am so pleased to introduce a fantastically awesome show with Thais Gibson, creator of the Personal Development School! She sent me a very intriguing overview of what she might talk about on the show and I said, “Sure, let’s talk about it,” but I gotta tell you, I was blown away—this is one of my favorite shows I have ever had on the B.rad podcast!  Listeners, I think this will be tremendously valuable and potentially life changing for you—I will say now that it will be for me, and I’m sure it helped that I unknowingly became the Guinea pig for a lot of the show. In this episode, you will hear essentially a live coaching call where Thais demonstrates her expertise and her methods on real life examples from me, Brad, especially my incongruence between my stated goals and my behavior patterns. We picked out the pursuit of wealth and financial security as something that I at times get frustrated by or feel deficient in, (perhaps because of subconscious patterns kicking in) and you will hear Thais explain the causes of self-sabotage and how to reprogram certain thoughts—which is especially interesting to hear once Thais explains that we are operating from our conscious mind three to five percent of the time! If you have been listening to the podcast a lot and you read and you educate yourself, your conscious mind may be doing really well, acquiring the knowledge and skills you need to succeed, but your subconscious “needs” still will come in and oftentimes interfere. So, it’s time for Brad to get processed and dig deep and explore what is going on here when self-sabotage kicks in.  Thais Gibson is a counselor, a bestselling author of a book called Learning Love and the co-founder of the fabulous Personal Development School. She also has a Ph.D. and over 13 certifications in modalities ranging from CBT, NLP, somatic experiencing, internal family systems, to shadow work and hypnosis. Thais had nearly a decade of experience running a successful private practice and founded The Personal Development School, an online learning platform, to provide a more accessible, authentic way for clients to transform their lives. I enrolled immediately after we finished this recording, and I want you to go visit her website and consider doing the same. She offers a test run where you can see what it’s all about—check it out at personaldevelopmentschool.com.   TIMESTAMPS: People may not always be aware that they are self-sabotaging because it usually occurs at a subconscious level. [00:53] Your conscious mind is responsible for roughly 3 to 5 percent of all of your beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and actions or decisions. Your subconscious is responsible for 95 to 97 percent. [04:48] We all have subconscious personality needs. [07:54] Thais uses Brad as an example to unpack what needs it relates to. She asks first, what does he do in his spare time? [09:34] Where does he spend his money? What does he like to learn about? [12:10] Our subconscious mind is also the host of all of our limiting beliefs. [19:46] There is a tool for how to pull up what your limiting beliefs are. [21:42] We're scared of something that's hidden in the periphery at a subconscious level of mind [24:29] Reconditioning is a tool for reprogramming. [26:25] Thais identifies characteristics of people who have been in a relationship with a narcissist. [30:41] Look for the things that trigger you. Plan your limiting belief and use its opposite. [33:02] Step one: What is your core belief and its opposite? Step two: what are 10 memories to support? They can be recent memories, really old memories, doesn't matter. 10 memories to support this new idea about yourself. I am, in fact, good enough. Step three: listen back for 21 days. [34:17] When thinking about financial security, many people struggle with their subconscious as in feeling they don’t deserve it or some parts of society that have a distaste for the inequitable distribution of wealth. [43:10] There are seven areas of life that need attention. Career, financial, mental, emotional, spiritual, physical and relationship. To ignore one area, we will pay for it later. [52:45] What specific things or set of things are you going to do on a daily basis to reprogram? [59:13] So much futile energy and effort toward change without addressing these core issues is going to be tough. [01:06:13]   LINKS: Brad Kearns.com Brad’s Shopping page B.rad Whey Protein Isolate Superfuel - The Best Protein on The Planet! Available in Two Delicious Flavors: Vanilla Bean and Cocoa Bean NEW: B.rad Superfruits - Organic Freeze-Dried Exotic Fruit Powder! 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