Drop the Rope: How to Help (Not Enable) Your Teen Struggling with Weed, Vaping, or Alcohol with Amber Hollingsworth

Send a textIf your teen has been vaping, using weed, lying, or just seems totally unmotivated—and you’re tired of the constant arguments or feeling unsure how to help them turn things around—this episode is for you. Amber Hollingsworth is an addiction specialist and creator of the YouTube channel Put The Shovel Down—and in this interview, Amber shares what really helps when teens are experimenting, struggling, or unmotivated to change.Amber shares Why “waiting for rock bottom” backfires—and what creates change insteadThe #1 most enabling behavior (hint: it’s not giving $20)How to "Drop the rope” and get out of the tug-of-war and lower the resistanceHow you want natural consequences vs. parent-imposed punishment to do the teachingWhat true boundaries actually look like: spoiler - they are rules for yourself, not your teenHow to build “credit” with your teen so your words carry weightKey Takeaways:Don’t be the villain. When you argue, threaten, or lecture, you become the distraction that keeps your teen from looking inward.Let the world be the bad guy. Natural consequences teach; parent-made punishments often fuel denial and blame.Boundaries are about you. “If you’re arrested, I won’t pick you up”—that’s a boundary. “You can’t leave the house”—that’s a rule you likely can’t enforce.Lead with empathy, then influence. “I get why fitting in matters” opens ears; lectures close them.Build credibility (“credit”). When your teen feels understood, your guidance finally lands.Where to find Amber:Put The Shovel Down on YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@PutTheShovelDown/videosConsults/coaching webiste: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/Free Resources: https://www.familyrecoveryacademy.online/free-resourcesSupport the showCheck out What's Waiting For You At Moms of Tweens and Teens Find more encouragement, wisdom, and resources: Website: https://momsoftweensandteens.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/momsoftweensandteens/ Join our Community HERE. Find awesome resources HERE. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/momsoftweensandteens/ Sheryl also has an Inner Circle weekly Parenting Program with a community of like-minded moms, personal coaching, and tons of resources to equip and support you to love well, navigate the challenges and meet your tween and teen’s unique needs during these pivotal years.