E 56: How to Give an Intentional Yes

Episode 56: How to Say an Intentional YesMona shares takeaways from attending the Idaho PTA convention as a middle school PTA President, including the growing need for volunteers and how easy it is for high achievers to say yes too fast and then feel overwhelmed or resentful. She explains that the issue is deeper than “just say no,” often rooted in patterns like people pleasing, avoiding conflict, chasing praise, or identity tied to performance, and how those fear-based yeses can lead to burnout. Mona offers a simple framework of five questions to help make a strategic yes: what you’re saying no to, whether it aligns with your real values, if it helps you grow, whether it benefits the people you love and your community, and if your future self will thank you. She also encourages pausing before answering and reviewing commitments weekly.00:00 PTA Convention Story02:03 Why We Overcommit04:42 Patterns Behind Yes08:19 High Achiever Identity Trap12:05 Five Questions Framework13:16 Question One Tradeoffs15:14 Question Two Values Check17:03 Question Three Growth Test19:06 Question Four Who Benefits21:14 Question Five Future Self22:44 Courageous Yes Mindset25:21 How To Implement Daily28:28 Final Recap And GoodbyeTo to find out more about how I can help your workplace or work with me one on one, please see www.monatippets.comWant to understand your stress a little better? Get my free Stress Management Guide for High Achievers here.