e029 – You Cannot Be Everyone’s Cup of Tea – With Sabrina Greer

Sabrina is so excited to be back! After a brief hiatus, she is right back in the studio to deliver you the positive, encouraging words you can expect from You've Got This Mama, the podcast. This episode’s theme is “You Cannot Be Everyone’s Cup of Tea”. Sabrina explores how tough this mindset can be to process as a recovering people-pleasing perfectionist herself. In the world of motherhood, womanhood, business, we fall into the comparison trap so often, impeding the sense of community. It fosters competition and jealousy. At YGTMama, we want to foster community over competition. We want to encourage people to step into their power and not drag people down with negativity. After a particularly demanding stage of growth, Sabrina discusses how the seasonal transition from the damp, muddy spring into the beautiful blooms of summer have inspired her to take inventory of how she cultivates her own garden. Like gardens, people go through seasons and how they are tended, directs how they grow. It is painful and uncomfortable. Growing pains are real. Sabrina explores her own seasonal transitions as she embraces the new changes in her life. As in nature, personal transition and growth are moving forward and changing the structure of things. In fact, long-time followers know growth is one of our favourite topics here at You've Got This Mama! How do you like your tea? Light and sweet, coconut milk, black, we all like it differently. There are so many varieties of tea, and so many varieties of people. So when we try to be the best person for someone else, it will never work. We can't be everyone’s cup of tea. What other people think of you, is none of your business. You don’t need to worry about what other people are thinking of you. Everyone is more concerned with themselves. Keep this in mind next time someone may rub you the wrong way, or if you have a negative interaction. The important lesson to learn is that you can't make everyone happy. Not all of the time, it's not possible. This doesn’t mean you should go around burning bridges, but that you just need to be you. You only need to focus on what you are doing, not who is doing what. Do you, in motherhood. Don't worry about who is co-sleeping, or breastfeeding or bottle feeding. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter. Your child is your child and you are you. And what works for you is not going to work for somebody else. And somebody else's opinion of you isn’t your business. When it comes to business, there’s going to be so many people that judge your success, that want you to fail, that don’t trust or believe you, and that question your integrity. It could be jealousy, anger, any number of things motivating them. But you can't allow that to stop you or get in your way, because then those people win. You continue to manage your own stuff and do you. You let what they think about you to be their business. When it comes to friendships and relationships, it is the same. You cannot be everyone's cup of tea or best friend. If your friendships are rich, it doesn’t matter how many of them you have. It has been said that you are the sum of the 5 people you spend this most time with. So who are you spending your time with? Who are you giving your energy to? Who are you allowing to influence you? Back in your garden, if you were a seed, ready to be planted, what type would you be? Would you be a perennial that grows and take care of themselves, and can be left untended? Without changes have a fixed mindset that allows for simple maintenance.  But is it a vegetable, rose, or something else? You want to grow. With a growth mindset, you can actually become smarter and more intelligent. What type of garden do you have, and do you want that to change? How are you tending your garden? Is there adequate light or is something blocking the sun?