E120: How Do We Make It Safe To Be A Man, To Be The Man You Already Are: Jack May

Have you tried all the big wellness modalities, but still find yourself going back to the same old habits and thought patterns? If external methods like yoga, ayahuasca retreats and meditation only do so much for you, maybe it’s time to consider that the true path to healing can actually be found within yourself.Joining Nick on this episode of The Betar Project is Jack May, a men’s health coach and founder of Wildmen Wellness. Like many of us, Jack went through a series of unfulfilling jobs and relationships before finally starting to question why he was living a life out of fear. When we don’t feel safe, we’re unable to ask ourselves the deep questions to find our authentic selves. The brain develops neural pathways in early childhood to protect us from rejection and abandonment, but it can stay stuck in survival mode as we get older, inhibiting our ability to understand and trust in our own innate wisdom.Jack experienced this throughout his life, and he’s sharing the three steps he follows to cope with his inner critic. By teaching others to use compassion to integrate the broken parts of themselves, he believes we can stop judging ourselves and start to heal in a safe space of vulnerability and curious awareness.You’ll also hear Jack’s thoughts on how to find safety in the body and why the world needs more time to respond instead of react. Tune in to learn all this and more!Topics discussed in this episode:Jack shares what he’s grateful for todayHow Jack’s early life led to a crisis of developmentFeeling safe in the world and within yourselfHow Nick changed his perspective on anxietyQuestions we should ask ourselves in support of curiosityCreating space to feel love and be compassionateCurious awareness is the first step to growthJack’s mission to help other men feel safeHow to create a safe space for other peopleThe brain reacting to not feeling safeCan you rewire synapses in the brain to change survival responses?Healing the bad parts of you instead of getting rid of themFear of death and lack of eldership in Western cultureWhat should men’s work focus on?Meeting your goals vs. amplifying your inner criticBeing present for your childrenJack answers this week’s guest questionFollow Jack:WebsiteInstagramTo listen to more episodes, head to Apple Podcasts here!Support the showConnect with Nick:Instagram TikTok YouTube