E122: Why Do We Quit Therapy? Trauma, Attachment & People Pleasing Unpacked

Have you ever walked into a therapy room ready to do the work — only to find yourself people pleasing your way through every session? Or worse, quitting right when things start getting real? If trauma and attachment wounds are part of your story, you are not alone — and there's a reason this keeps happening.In this episode, licensed therapist and CPTSD specialist Cindy Payne, MS, LPC-S, NCC sits down with therapist and podcast host Rudi Betzold of The Hidden Way for an honest, therapist-to-therapist conversation about:Why trauma and attachment patterns make it so hard to stick with therapyHow people pleasing shows up in the therapy room — and why we don't even realize it's happeningThe perfectionism trap that makes us feel like we're failing when we're actually healingWhat green flags to look for in a therapist when you've been hurt beforeWhy successful therapy isn't about "fixing" yourself — and what it actually looks likeWhether you're considering therapy for the first time, have had painful experiences with it before, or are somewhere in the middle of your healing journey — this conversation will leave you feeling seen, understood, and hopeful. Cindy and Rudi bring warmth, humor, and deep clinical wisdom to one of the most important conversations you can have about your mental health."I've been waiting for this my whole life — this is what I've been looking for." That's what healing can feel like when you find the right fit. You deserve that.Listen now and share this episode with someone who needs permission to keep going. Follow Rudi's podcast The Hidden Way — https://open.spotify.com/show/5oRPAiXnSNO5XrRSXLXL0L?si=eb12363491a54078 Read Rudi's Substack After Eden — https://rudibetzold.substack.com/Follow Rudi on Instagram — @rudibetzoldResources mentioned:Dan Siegel — River of Well-BeingPrentice Hempel — Perfectionism & ShameThe Enneagram — Type 1 & Type 9Keywords: trauma, attachment, people pleasing, CPTSD, therapy, perfectionism, healing, safety planning, therapeutic relationship, mental health, women's mental healthConnect with Cindy:Ready for deeper support? Take the free people-pleasing quiz, explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.comInstagram: @cindypaynerootedemail: [email protected] podcast supports women healing trauma, attachment wounds, codependency, anxiety, perfectionism, people pleasing, overthinking, and rebuilding self-worth, self-trust, boundaries, and confidence through trauma-informed guidance.Through honest, grounded conversations, it explores the real human experience of growth and leadership, the tension between purpose and rest, boundaries and connection, and how choosing awareness and compassion creates a more aligned and authentic life.