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Jun 13, 2025 9 min

E124: The Queen’s Checklist — Good Adoptee Behavior

from Wonderland Unlocked Hosted by Courtney Hays | Mental Health Advocate and Registerd Behavioral Technician

Series 6: Not Quite Alice — The Wonderland of Being Given Away E124: The Queen’s Checklist — Good Adoptee Behavior In this episode, we step into the throne room of expectations — where adoptees are handed invisible scrolls of how to behave, how to feel, and who to be. “Be grateful,” “Don’t ask questions,” “Smile and stay small.” Sound familiar? Today on Wonderland Unlocked, we open up the Queen’s gilded checklist and take a closer look at the impossible standards many adoptees are expected to meet just to feel safe, loved, or enough. From people-pleasing to performance, this chapter in our Not Quite Alice series explores how being adopted can turn identity into a balancing act — all under the Queen’s watchful eye. What happens when you start scribbling on the list… or throw it away altogether? ********************************************************* 🗝️✨ I was never supposed to tell this story. But I am.For years, I lived inside someone else’s version of my life — wrapped in secrets, silences, and bedtime stories that left too much out. Now I’m writing the truth. Unlocked is my autobiography about adoption, anxiety, family fractures, and the journey of reclaiming my voice. I’m raising funds to professionally edit, design, print, and share this book with people who need to know they’re not alone. If you’ve ever been called too sensitive, too dramatic, too much — this book is for you.And if you believe in the power of truth, I’d be so grateful if you could help me bring it into the world. 📚🧩 Donate, share, or simply send love — it all matters.🌀 ⁠https://gofund.me/e7709816⁠ #UnlockedBook #Memoir #AdoptionStory #FamilySecrets #BreakTheSilence#WonderlandUnlocked #SupportIndieAuthors

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