E13 – You May Not Be Bad At Boundaries

You might not feel very comfortable with doing it, but in reality, setting boundaries is about communicating what you want and don’t want. I think on average, targets (who are often empaths) tend to be fairly strong communicators. We may often go into over-justifying our boundaries more than being poor at communicating boundaries in general. - We may be inclined to over-justify our boundaries - Abusers are notoriously bad at respecting boundaries - Setting and maintaining boundaries is a skillset you can learn - Happy healthy people typically accept boundaries - While targetted by an abuser your boundaries are constantly under attack, so perhaps you are exhausted from defending your boundaries (rather than bad at it)