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EPISODE · Feb 20, 2026 · 57 MIN

E138: When Love Becomes Harm: Mercy Without Enabling

from The Happiest Lives Podcast · host Jill M. Lillard

*Get your free guide, 3 Ways of Relating When Love Feels Uncertain at www.myhappyvault.com/uncertainThis is part three of the series, Loving Without Losing Your Real Self.In today’s episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, I’m talking with Julie Perkin Stout Davenport, author of Secrets in the Sanctuary.Julie was my pastor’s wife when I was in high school, and I watched her walk through betrayal in her marriage.In this conversation, Julie shares what was really happening behind the scenes, why it was so hard to speak up, and how Scripture can be used in confusing or harmful ways when relationships aren’t healthy.We discuss the distinction between mercy and enabling, what kind of support actually helps, and what the church often overlooks when it comes to betrayal and harm.If your relationship feels confusing, heavy, or unsafe—or if you’re trying to support someone you love—this episode will meet you right where you are.You can find Julie’s book Secrets in the Sanctuary at julieedavenport.com. FREE: The 4 Mindset Shifts for a Happier MarriageReady to stop waiting for your husband to change and start focusing on how you want to show up in your marriage? Get the free mini-course + workbook and Scripture study here:myhappyvault.comDiscover ways to work with me at www.thehappiestlives.com or www.myhappyvault.comQuestions? Email Jill directly at [email protected]

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*Get your free guide, 3 Ways of Relating When Love Feels Uncertain at www.myhappyvault.com/uncertain This is part three of the series, Loving Without Losing Your Real Self. In today’s episode of The Happiest Lives Podcast, I’m talking with Julie Perkin Stout Davenport, author of Secrets in the Sanctuary. Julie was my pastor’s wife when I was in high school, and I watched her walk through betrayal in her marriage. In this conversation, Julie shares what was really happening behind the scenes, ...

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