E14 Sex Myths, Part 1

Join our hosts as Zabrina leads Kori and Jen in part one of this compelling conversation around Sexual Myths. Discover how myths shape our understanding of desire, intimacy, and aging in long-term relationships. Listen along as we explore cultural narratives, scientific insights, and personal experiences that challenge common assumptions about sexuality at every life stage.   Show Notes Key Topics: The myth that love automatically sustains desire and how desire evolves over time How societal and cultural views on aging impact sexuality for women and men The difference between spontaneous and responsive desire and its implications Why frequency of sex does not equate to relationship health How to navigate changes in desire during major life transitions like parenthood and menopause The role of fantasy, distance, and novelty in maintaining eroticism The importance of open communication and challenging societal myths around aging, sex, and desirability Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to myths about long-term sexuality and desire 02:06 - How desire shifts with age and life changes 03:10 - The myth of maintaining desire through constant effort 05:15 - Scientific insights: spontaneous vs. responsive desire 08:22 - The truth about frequency and relationship satisfaction 12:42 - Myths about aging and the stereotypes of sexuality in older adults 15:15 - Cultural narratives and media representation of older sexuality 20:05 - How societal ageism impacts women's and men's desire 24:00 - The importance of communication and seeking help early 29:00 - Embracing change in desire and redefining intimacy 33:00 - Parenthood, children, and their effects on sexual intimacy 41:41 - Challenging the idea that aging ends eroticism 45:28 - The significance of intentionality and creating space for desire 50:34 - Moving beyond myths: embracing evolving sexuality at every age  References:                                                                                                                         Basson, R. (2001). Using a different model for female sexual response to address women’s problematic low sexual desire. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, 27(5), 395–403. https://doi.org/10.1080/009262301753148637 Baumeister, R. F., Catanese, K. R., & Vohs, K. D. (2001). Is there a gender difference in strength of sex drive? Personality and Social Psychology Review, 5(3), 242–273. https://doi.org/10.1207/S15327957PSPR0503_5 Bogaert, A. F. (2004). Asexuality: Prevalence and associated factors. The Journal of Sex Research, 41(3), 279–287. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224490409552235 Hamilton, L. D., & Meston, C. M. (2013). Chronic stress and sexual function in women. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 42(7), 1349–1359. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-012-0044-0 Leitenberg, H., & Henning, K. (1995). Sexual fantasy. Psychological Bulletin, 117(3), 469–496. https://doi.org/10.1037/0033-2909.117.3.469 Lindau, S. T., Schumm, L. P., Laumann, E. O., Levinson, W., O’Muircheartaigh, C. A., & Waite, L. J. (2007). A study of sexuality and health among older adults. New England Journal of Medicine, 357(8), 762–774. https://doi.org/10.1056/NEJMoa067423 Muise, A., Schimmack, U., & Impett, E. A. (2016). Sexual frequency predicts greater well-being. Social Psychological and Personality Science, 7(4), 295–302. https://doi.org/10.1177/1948550615616462 Perel, E. (2006). Mating in captivity: Unlocking erotic intelligence. HarperCollins.   Contact Information: Find Murder of Crones on You Tube, Tik Tok, Facebook and Instagram.  Email : [email protected]   Special Thanks to www.dinnissendesign.com for Zabrina’s use of their show room for recording. Check them out for all your interior design needs. Dinnissen Design is located in Vancouver and Castlegar BC.