E25: I am Lane's bowling lane bumpers

Confession: I have started referring to myself as Lane’s bumpers on a bowling lane.  I can guide and provide for him, keeping him out of the gutters in adolescence, while at the same time understanding he has free will.  I need to trust in his ability to make good choices in the teen years.  Lane needs to trust that I will be there for him, even when he doesn’t.Also included in this episode:*the sad reality of school lockdown drills*school tours and how Lane chose his new school for 10th grade*more about Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel J. Siegel*the importance of keeping the lines of communication open between you and your teen*examples of showing no emotional reaction when my then-stepsons and Lane shared surprising things*why I try to ask, "Do you want to be heard, hugged, or helped?" when Lane discloses things*how I worked with Lane to understand why he was ditching school in 8th grade and what finally cured him of the bad habitSHOW NOTES:Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel J SiegelTalk to me! Click here to provide feedbackThanks for listening, Beloveds.  Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will?   Keep advocating for your child.  And, most importantly, stay tenacious!PODCAST RECOMMENDATION:The TBRI PodcastQUICK VIDEOS TO WATCH:Karyn Purvis Institute of Child DevelopmentBOOK RECOMMENDATION:The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah NaishResources on suicide prevention:Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.- Call or text 988- Chat at 988lifeline.org Connect with a trained crisis counselor...