E3: It's not your fault, but it IS your responsibility

Confession: I started telling my son, “It’s not your fault you have all these cards stacked against you.  However, it is your responsibility to figure it out and be a good person.”  I will detail the many layers of Lane's trauma that have hindered his ability to form secure attachments with others and have shaped who he is today.  I also share stories highlighting his sense of humor when he was little and a blog entry about his first visit to my home when we were transitioning him from his first foster family to mine.Included in this episode:*Lane's sense of humor<Nacho Libre*Hollywood's portrayal of adoption as s win-win and love conquers all*Lane's layer of trauma that have negatively impacted him*hair-trigger temper when he was little<out of control rage in middle school*Reactive Attachment Disorder?*disorganized attachment*"throwing shade" on compliments helps Lane accept positives*funny blog entry from 11/4/10 Important lessonsMy audacious intent for this podcast is to be a beacon of hope for parents and guardians like me, who are raising wounded children and doing their best to stay afloat.  I have found my way from surviving to thriving and you can, too!SHOW NOTES:Understanding Epigenetics articleAdoption Trauma- Part 1: What is adoption trauma? ArticleAttachment Styles articleAttachment Theory on Brittanica.comA few podcasts where you can find episodes on attachment theories and styles:Therapist Uncensored The Inner Child PodcastTalk to me! Click here to provide feedbackThanks for listening, Beloveds.  Please take care of yourselves; if you don’t do it, who will?   Keep advocating for your child.  And, most importantly, stay tenacious!PODCAST RECOMMENDATION:The TBRI PodcastQUICK VIDEOS TO WATCH:Karyn Purvis Institute of Child DevelopmentBOOK RECOMMENDATION:The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting Strategies and Solutions by Sarah NaishResources on suicide prevention:Contact the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline if you are experiencing mental health-related distress or are worried about a loved one who may need crisis support.- Call or text 988- Chat at 988lifeline.org Connect with a trained crisis counselor...