E320: What would Happen if The Fear Wasn’t There? With Claire Aughmuty

Claire Aughmuty is a force of nature. After a career as a nurse and a wife and mother, a broken ankle sustained during COVID helped turn her life around. It was during her convalescence, when she was forced to ask people for help to do things that she’d always taken for granted, that she started feeling reconnected to others – a part of a community. That experience helped her make the decision to start a second career as a divorce and break-up coach, to help others through an emotional and often confusing time that she went through. I just know you’ll enjoy our conversations. KEY TAKEAWAYS  If you want to change your life, why can’t you? Life is too short to feel boxed in by decisions you’ve outgrown.  When we trust ourselves to make a good decision, it doesn’t matter what other people think.  I can afford compassion for lots of people, but why not myself?  You can change as a person if you let your defenses down.  BEST MOMENTS   “I had to leave my marriage to understand that I had no idea how to look after myself. No idea. So when I heard self care, I was like, ‘Well, I had a bath, that's fine.’ But I didn't understand self care at all.” “I understood ‘selfishness' to be making decisions that were about me. And that [was] a negative thing. You're very selfish for whatever it happens to be. And when you think like that, and other people say something like that, it's almost like it's glued with superglue to the word guilt. Guilt is not good. It's not a good emotion.” “But nearly every day, a different friend called in to help me with stuff. I remember probably about two months into my broken ankle, suddenly thinking, ‘I feel connected to my world for the first time in a way that I never did before.’ Because I couldn't do anything for myself; I couldn’t be independent. I needed other people to help; I had to ask and I had to receive. It’s very easy to give, but it’s a very different ballgame when you're on the receiving end and you need to ask. But [once] I learned how to do that my defenses came down.” “I look at the decisions I've made. And I think the decisions I've made have changed my legacy completely. My children's lives – they will work life differently. As I learn and grow, I teach them and show them. Who knows where they'll go in their future, where their  children will go in the future?”   ABOUT THE GUEST   Claire moved to Galway when she was eight and spent her childhood there, but also attended boarding school in Dublin. After attending nursing school, she was a nurse for a while, and then married, had a family, and has been living in the North Node for around 26 years. After a divorce, she reinvented herself as a coach to help others through their own break-ups on their journeys of re-discovery.   CONTACT METHOD  Claire’s coaching page on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Claire-Auchmuty-Coaching-101555338881290   ABOUT THE HOST  The ‘Mighty Pete Lonton’ from the ‘Mighty 247’ company is your main host of ‘Fire in The Belly’.  Pete is an entrepreneur, mentor, coach, property Investor, and father of three beautiful girls. Pete’s background is in project management and property, but his true passion is the ‘Fire in The Belly’ project itself. His mission is to help others find their potential and become the mightiest version of themselves. Pete openly talks about losing both of his parents, suffering periods of depression, business downturn and burn-out, and ultimately his years spent not stoking ‘Fire in the Belly’. In 2017, at 37 years of age that changed, and he is now on a journey of learning, growing, accepting, and inspiring others. Pete can connect with people and intuitively asks questions to reveal a person’s passion and discover how to live their mightiest life. The true power of ‘Fire in The Belly’ is the Q&A’s - Questions and Actions section.  The ‘Fire in The Belly’ brand and the programme is rapidly expanding into podcasts, seminars, talks, business workshops, development courses, and rapid results mentoring.   CONTACT METHOD https://www.facebook.com/mightypetelonton/ https://uk.linkedin.com/in/mightypete https://www.facebook.com/groups/430218374211579/  Support the show: https://www.facebook.com/groups/430218374211579/