E46. "Sienna's Monster" - How do you escape the monster inside you?

Named “Top 20 Philosophy Podcast” for 2021!STORY SUMMARY: Sienna is living with a “Monster,” in this case, her father.  He does not hit her, but he does yell, and rant, and breaks things.  Sienna grows up always on edge that the “monster” will lash out at her.  Over time, she builds up equally toxic defense mechanisms.  She learns to yell back and to be as hate-filled as her father.  This all changes when she goes to college and meets her roommate Clara.  Clara does not lash out.  She does not accuse.  She does not go into conversations prepared for battle.  She listens, she is empathetic.  She does not “keep score” in their friendship.  Sienna assumes Clara has an alternative motive, and continues to be skeptical.  Eventually, Sienna comes to see Clara for what she is, a decent human being.  Armed with her new knowledge, Sienna heads home for Thanksgiving and confronts her father.  Her father credits himself with “breaking the cycle” and being a good father by not physically abusing Sierra that way his father was to him.  Sienna is frustrated, and resolves to never speak to him again.  Over the Christmas holiday, Sienna decides to visit Clara’s family.  Sienna’s mother asks if she, and only she, can come visit.  Sienna reluctantly agrees.  Her mother arrives, father in tow.  The story ends with Sienna in jail, having killed her father.DISCUSSION: Interesting story that brings up outstanding questions about the cycle of abuse and what is “getting better.” Sienna’s father is better than his father was to him, and it would be hard to expect much more from him outside of him independently deciding to get help. We already see Sienna taking on the horrible traits of her father and, were it not for her roommate, would probably end up just like her father. Perhaps everyone is the hero in their own story?BOOK LINK: Download the accompanying short story here.MAGAZINE: Sign up for our monthly magazine and receive short stories that ask ethical and philosophical questions.SUPPORT: Support us on Patreon.FOLLOW: Twitter, Instagram, Facebook