E58- Ideal Support for Husband and Wife Navigating Betrayal Trauma w/ Casey Allison

Send us Fan MailSteve O’Connor hosts special guest Casey Allison, founder of Come Awake Coaching and Consulting.  Casey is a Master Certified Coach through ICF, an APSATS-certified Partner Coach, a Certified Disclosure Guide through Kintsugi Recovery Partners, a PSAP through IITAP, and a Brainspotting practitioner. She also has training in the perinatal period with betrayed women, and additional training to support partners of sex addicts who have criminally sexually offended, whether they’ve been charged or not. She holds many other trainings and certifications as well.Casey shares how discovering her husband’s secret sexual life led her, after years of ineffective help and multiple practitioners, to find betrayal-trauma-informed support and eventually serve women navigating betrayal, pregnancy/new motherhood, and cases involving sexual offending. They discuss how uninformed resources can harm partners by blaming them, and share indicators of good support: prioritizing safety and stabilization, validating grief and anger, and aiming for post-traumatic growth rather than “going back.” They emphasize the importance of truth and a collaborative Full Disclosure, including the Partner Impact Statement and Emotional Restitution letter, to restore mutuality, reduce shame, and foster empathy. Casey shares about her Catholic women’s Facebook group and her coaching groups, and offers hope that healing is possible. Tune in and share!Time Stamps:Show Intro 01:13 Saint of the Day Reflection - St. John Baptist de LaSalle as a model of radical surrender03:25 Meet Casey Allison04:56 Casey's Story and Calling08:13 Finding Trauma Informed Help11:51 Safety, Stabilization, Grief, Anger and Growth14:24 Why Full Disclosure Matters17:21 Team Based Disclosure Support22:04 Power, Control and Mutuality25:06 Impact and Restitution Letters29:47 Catholic Women Facebook Community33:41 Casey Groups and Programs38:29 Closing Hope and Next StepsLinks for Casey:Free initial consultation: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/packages_4.htmlSupport groups: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/community.htmlWorkshops and Events: https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/promotions.htmlDigital Resources: https://comeawakeresources.company.site/Released to Heal Group (starting April 15th): https://www.comeawakecoach.org/p/released-to-heal-support-group.htmlHELPFUL CFP LINKS:-Join an amazing group of men in the Finally Free Group here.-Get daily, uplifting CFP BOOST Texts by texting SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or here.-For 30 days Free of Covenant Eyes, sign up at:  https://www.covenanteyes.comPROMO CODE: CFP-Get a safe, locked-down phone - a Wisephone!  Use Promo Code: CFP to save $25 - https://www.techless.com/CFP-Book an INTRO Call with Steve here.-Email: [email protected] up for the Email Newsletter at the website-Donate to CFP