E64- After Disclosure: The Partner Impact Statement and the Emotional Restitution Letter w/ Ellen Drews

Send us Fan MailSteve O’Connor hosts Episode #64 of the Catholics Fight Porn podcast with guest Ellen Drews to discuss the “After Disclosure” phases of the Full Disclosure process: the Partner Impact Statement and the Emotional Restitution Letter. This marks Ellen's 4th appearance on the show.  Check out her other episodes [15, 23, 26].Framed by recording on the the Memorial of Our Lady of Sorrows, they connect disclosure work to grief, empathy, humility, and restoration. Ellen explains why guided disclosure helps break denial, create shared reality, and stabilize safety. She outlines what impact letters cover (physical, psychological, financial, spiritual, sexual, social/professional, and family effects), what makes restitution letters effective, suggested timing, and how structured, supported sessions help couples grieve losses and rebuild trust.Ellen who holds a Master’s in Theology and Pastoral Ministry and is a Certified Partner Coach (APSATS), certified Brainspotting practitioner, ICF-Certified Life Coach, Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional (ITAP), Full Disclosure Guide through Kintsugi Recovery Partners, and an Inner Child Model Recovery Specialist trained through Dr. Eddie Capparucci.Welcome 01:09 Our Lady of Sorrows03:11 Meet Ellen Drews05:46 Who Ellen Helps08:09 Three Phases of Healing11:23 Why Guided Disclosure13:42 When to Start Impact20:06 Impact Statement Basics21:31 Impact Categories Breakdown27:19 From Pain to a Roadmap29:54 What Changes After Writing30:41 Making Space for Pain31:33 Compassionate Witnessing31:49 Safe Containment for Truth34:27 Empathy as a Muscle35:07 Restitution Letter Guidelines37:22 Partner Phase Two Healing41:10 Processing and Sharing Letters44:45 Humility and Deeper Recovery46:04 Overcoming Letter Resistance51:41 United Against Addiction54:25 Closing📌 RESOURCES & LINKS:Visit Ellen's website: www.ellendrews.com and book a Complimentary Consult Call with her to discuss your situation and next stepsJoin Finally Free - CFP's group coaching program for Catholic men: catholicsfightporn.com/groupsBook an intro call with Steve: catholicsfightporn.com/introdiscoverycallDaily CFP Boost texts — text SUPPORT to (941) 279-2337 or visit catholicsfightporn.com/dailytextThe Freedom Letter - a daily email newsletter - sign up at catholicsfightporn.comFull Disclosure support - Steve and a betrayed partner coach guide couples through the Full Disclosure process. Email Steve for more info: [email protected] Eyes accountability software - Get 30 days free at covenanteyes.com | Promo code: CFPWisephone - a safe, locked-down smartphone that's not a flip phone - techless.com/CFP | Promo code: CFP saves $25Instagram: @catholicrecoveryIf this episode helped you, please leave a five-star review on Apple Podcasts. It costs you nothing and helps other men find this content when they need it most.