E74: Your Attachment Style Is Choosing Your Relationships (Here’s How to Change the Pattern)

Why do you keep choosing the same kinds of partners—even when you know they’re not good for you?If you struggle with people-pleasing, fear of abandonment, emotional shutdown, or that confusing push-pull feeling in relationships, this episode connects the dots between attachment styles and complex PTSD so you can finally understand why your nervous system reacts the way it does—and why it makes so much sense.Gain clarity on how the four attachment styles actually show up in real-life relationships, especially for women with C-PTSDLearn to identify your own nervous system triggers, people-pleasing patterns, and survival responses without shameDiscover practical, trauma-informed ways to move toward secure attachment, stronger boundaries, and deeper self-trustPress play to feel validated, understood, and equipped with insights that can help you break old relationship patterns and start building safer, more secure connections—beginning with yourself.Resources for this episode: Diane Poole Heller, Attachment Theory in PracticeSue Johnson, Hold Me TightBessel van der Kolk, The Body Keeps the ScoreAmir Levine & Rachel Heller, AttachedDan Siegel, The Developing Mind