E81: Midweek Reframe: Disorganized Attachment & Self-Compassion: Meeting Push-Pull With Kindness

What if the push-pull you feel in attachment isn’t a problem to fix—but a place where kindness is needed most?For women with CPTSD and disorganized attachment, moments of closeness can bring both comfort and fear—often followed by shame. This Midweek Reframe offers a gentle pause to help your nervous system settle. Using a trauma-informed self-compassion practice inspired by Kristin Neff’s work, you’ll learn how to meet conflicting attachment needs with softness instead of self-judgment.Experience a short, guided self-compassion practice designed for trauma-based attachmentLearn how soothing and grounding the body can reduce attachment-related shameDiscover how to hold longing and fear at the same time without forcing yourself to chooseTake a few minutes to press play and practice meeting your attachment patterns with safety, steadiness, and compassion.Resources:Free research-based assessments: ECR/ECR-R questionnaires, Short-Form ECR, and my People-Pleasing Style Quiz at cindypayne.comBooks: Attached by Levine & Heller, The Body Keeps the Score by van der Kolk, Parenting from the Inside Out by Siegel & HartzellThe Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook by Kristin Neff, PhD and Christopher Germer, PhDSelf-compassion practice: Kristin Neff – Self-CompassionCommunities and education: CPTSD Foundation-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism?This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety.Listen each week to learn how to:• Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout.• Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small.• Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth.Your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With CindyReady for deeper support? Explore therapy, coaching, or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With MeSend me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: [email protected]