So today's podcast is about the gratitude that you get for your past loves. This should be interesting. So what do you think of this? How many times have you been in love?
I mean, seriously, let's talk about this. How many times have you been in love? Hmm. You wanna know how many times I've been in love?
I used to say when I was in high school, every time I drove by Clearwater High School, which was not the high school I went to, by the way, but every time I drove by Clearwater High School after school, I fell in love about 900 times. But, you know, no, actually, actually dumbstruck in love. I do believe it's three times. Three times?
Yeah, three times. Three times. Is that pathetic or what? I don't know.
I don't know. But the one that I'm like, in love with the most and, and will never connect with, I want to. I, I, I was someplace today which I met a very interesting guy who gave me a correlation to this whole thing. Okay?
So the one that I'm, you know, was in love with the most, who I have not seen in over 50 years, has been married for 46 years to another guy who's not near as good looking as me. But anyway, here's a correlation I had. I wound up today for a client of mine at a hoarder house, a real estate investor client of mine. Hoarder house.
You've seen it on tv? Well, I've experienced them more than once, and I can never understand, I can never understand why people find themselves in a situation. And there was a young man, and he was young, you know, maybe 35. That's young to me.
Was there cleaning this place out, and I just said to him, I said, how do people live like this? And my goodness, what a genuine answer he gave me. A right. What a genuinely wonderful answer he gave me.
He said, you know, it doesn't start out this way. It starts out with reasonably good intentions. But one day you're watching television and you're reading a magazine and you, it's an old magazine and you throw it over on the sofa, and the next day you put something else on the sofa, and then the next day, and so on and so forth. And before you know it, after a period of time, you're used to all of this stuff, and the next thing you know, you have a house that you can't walk through.
And I think the same goes for relationships because sometimes you get into a relationship. I have not done this, but somebody I know has. That woman I was just alluding to. Gets into a relationship that starts out with the best intentions and is comfortable and secure.
And the next thing you know there's a magazine on the sofa and the next thing you know there's a. Just a bunch of stuff that goes on. And the next thing you know the woman's father is advising her to study nursing because that's a good job because you're going to be the money earner for this relationship. And then eventually, yeah, that sort of happens.
And now the house is full of stuff. Not physical stuff, but stuff that you're now settling with. I've seen that happen. Yeah, I've seen that happen firsthand.
And let's talk about the other one that I was in love with. That was my last girlfriend who passed away. She passed away many years after we broke up. But that situation was, you know, it was, it was really good while it was good and then when it ended, it ended abruptly and it ended quickly and I was taken back.
The way it ended is I went to visit her in Palm beach where she lived and I used to take the train to Palm beach because it's a three and a half hour drive or I'm sorry, it's close to a four hour drive, but it's a three and a half hour train ride and you don't have to drive, you just sit in the train and you know, relax and stretch out and read and do stuff. But the last time I visited her, which was In August of 2015, she takes me to the train to go home. She gives me this wonderful kiss, just mind bogglingly wonderful kiss. And then after the train leaves the station and I'm about 30, 40 miles away, I get a text and it says, please don't take this the wrong way, but I've decided I no longer wish to be in a relationship.
Goodbye. Do not contact me again. How's that? Well, I found out later, I found out much later.
I found out after she died actually that she had a past relationship with somebody who went away, not at his own volition, I guess, and then suddenly came back and she was love struck. And you know, the next thing you know they're together instantly and I'm gone. That was hard on me, but I got over it, you know, I totally got over it, but I didn't understand it at the time. But you know, you look back at all of these relationships and you've got, you know, you got cherished shared moments, you know, of the fun things that you've done and there's a bunch of.
The third one that I was truly in love with is my second wife. Not the third, not the first part, but the second wife. And I guess I was kind of in love with the first wife. Yeah, she wonderful woman.
Absolutely wonderful woman. But second wife in love with. And that ended also. But to this day, we're best friends.
She's over here all the time. We're together all the time. We're going out on Halloween together. We take trips together.
We, you know, before it's all over, we could possibly be living together. Who knows, you know, not romantically, but close. Very, very, very, very close. So what you have to learn from all these pa, you know, these past relationships is forgiveness and healing.
Gratitude allows us to forgive. It does. It's ungrateful for all three of these. Well, 3.5 of these relationships I'm very grateful for.
And I've, you know, and I forgive anybody that treated me badly. Although the first one didn't treat me badly, but maybe I treated her not the best in the world. It was 50 years ago, 50 plus years ago. So who knows?
But I do know that there's a lot to learn from relationships. Resilience. Hopefully learning from your mistakes and having a lot of compassion for others, past loves, especially challenging ones, can help foster compassion. It just does.
So have a great day. Tomorrow is Friday and we get to listen to Good Morning Americans. It's Friday. Yeah.
Get to listen to Paul Harvey. By the way, what you think of yesterday's podcast, which wasn't me, which was virtual voices that were an AI. Wasn't that weird? It was weird.
See you tomorrow.