Emotional Sobriety Series E3: Trait 2 - approval seeker, losing our identity. Trait 3 - frightened of angry people and criticism

Trait 2: We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.  Trait 3: We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism. Oh boy, these are some goodies!! I've been an approval seeker all my life.  If I could get you to like me or if I could get you on my side, then, I would feel safe.  The problem was, I had to become a chameleon just to fit, and in turn, eventually lost my identity.   When it comes to angry people, I had an odd thing that I would do that kept me in a familiar shame cycle.  In an effort to be liked and make sure people wouldn't get angry, i.e. so I could feel safe, I would try and befriend guys that has a reputation with getting angry.  Then, when they turned on me, I would be forced to back away with my tail between my legs because I was terrified of fighting.  I was always confused by why it kept happening to me however, I've recently realized, I created it all for myself! If you know someone that could benefit from hearing something like this, be sure and share it with them.  However, always remember to look at yourself in the mirror first!!