Empowered Christian Wife Intimacy Skills: Relinquishing Control

The opposite of faith isn’t doubt, it’s control.I talk to a lot of wives and they want their husband to be a spiritual leader.So they make helpful suggestions of what that could look like.I know for me, I would wrangle everyone to read the Bible together even though I really wanted him to be the one to initiate that, and he would pull his phone out of his pocket during what was supposed to be our family worship time. Then, I would use I statements to let him know how I felt about him taking his phone out.I would tell him how I would do it.I did not see myself as controlling.I thought I was just communicating. I thought I was just expressing my needs.I thought I was just asking questions.This didn’t work because he wanted me to champion the spiritual leader he already was, so when I only commented on what he wasn’t doing, he felt like he couldn’t win and he withdrew.When I explained to him how to be a spiritual leader, I just thought I was being helpful. But I was actually trying to get him to do things the right way - my way.This was getting worse and worse. I really thought maybe I had just married the wrong guy!What I needed to do instead was relinquish control. So what would that look like? Find out on today's episode.