Ending Chancla Culture Is About More Than Not Hitting Your Kids w/ Leslie Priscilla

Send us Fan MailLeslie Priscilla, creator of Latinx Parenting and author of Chancla (available everywhere on August 18, https://bookshop.org/a/12611/9780316567602), joins David for a conversation about parenting, power, intergenerational violence, and what it takes to build different relationships with children without pretending any parent can do this perfectly.The conversation explores how violence against children extends beyond hitting, why parents struggle to believe their own needs deserve attention, the relationship between capitalism and rest, faith and surrender after religious dogma, and what happens when the nervous system takes over during a parenting conflict.Leslie also explains why she is skeptical of the way “gentle parenting” has been packaged and separated from Indigenous ways of raising children. She and David connect those ideas to Restorative Justice, schools, homeschooling, the systems that make connected parenting harder, and what it means to raise children who are capable of questioning those systems.They also wrestle with a harder question: how can people invite others into a different way of relating without turning their own values into another set of rules used to judge people?At its core, this is a conversation about trying to give parents and children more grace while still taking seriously the responsibility to interrupt harmful patterns and create something different.Chapters00:00 Meet Leslie Priscilla00:57 What are we restoring by ending Chancla culture?03:58 How Leslie’s childhood became her public work09:37 Do we actually believe we deserve our needs met?14:14 Rest, productivity, guilt & being a parent21:57 Faith, surrender & tiny moments of liberation27:52 What happens when parenting overwhelms your nervous system34:28 Violence beyond hitting & the problem with “gentle parenting”41:44 Indigenous practices, colonialism & Restorative Justice44:40 Building alternatives when systems fail families47:46 Schools, homeschooling & raising future ancestors53:44 The less obvious forms of violence against children57:49 How to challenge people without becoming prescriptive1:04:49 Grace for parents who are still learningConnect with us!SUPPORT by sharing this podcast and leaving a rating or review